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Should i have have 2 bridal showers?

Rebecca, on April 15, 2021 at 10:03 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

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Hey fellow brides! Hoping to get some advice regarding bridal showers. I am definitely having a shower back in my home town that a few friends will be at but mostly family and “family friends” will be attending vs. my girlfriends. My co matron of honors have also offered to throw me shower where I live that would be just for my closer girlfriends that live near me now.. I am wondering if I should actually have them throw this shower though because everyone invited is also invited to my bachelorette weekend. I will add that this shower would be more of a “bridal brunch” and the only people that would be at the shower that are not also coming to the bachelorette weekend are my mom and future mother in law.

Does it make sense to have this bridal brunch on top of the bachelorette weekend when no other friends or family would be at the brunch? If it matters, the bridal brunch would other be about 6 weeks before the bachelorette weekend or about 4 weeks after.
I think I would be okay with just the family shower back home and my bachelorette weekend but a couple friends are encouraging me to have the bridal brunch as “you only get to do this once”. What are your thoughts?? How many showers are you having?? Is this asking too much of those girlfriends to go to a shower, 3 day bachelorette weekend, and the wedding??

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Latest activity by Sara, on April 15, 2021 at 11:32 AM

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SLY · on April 15, 2021 at 10:12 AM
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I think that's perfectly fine! I know a lot of brides that have had bridal brunches/showers together separate from the bachelorette weekend! As long as those invited aren't ALSO invited to the other shower, then I think it's fine to have both! I don't think it's too much to ask those girls to go to.
We're having 2 couple's showers. One that my FBIL and his wife are throwing, and one my MOH and her FH are throwing. My MOH is also wanting to throw me a bridal shower closer to our wedding date.
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Maureen · on April 15, 2021 at 10:26 AM
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It’s very sweet of them to want to throw you one where you currently live! I’m having two, one in my hometown and one where I currently live. I couldn’t have one, because the distance is just too far for either parties to travel for my hometown friends/fam, or my friends/FHs family where I currently live. It would be too much logistics wise. My mom offered to throw one at home, and help plan one where I currently live. So far it’s been pretty easy planning! We sent out invites for both at the same time also. You will enjoy it!
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Marianne · on April 15, 2021 at 10:29 AM
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I'm in a very similar situation (mom hosting one shower back home, MOH offered to host another where we live, but some guests already dropping money for a bachelorette weekend) and am wondering the same thing! In your situation, I think since your co-MOHs offered to host and your friends are encouraging you to have the bridal brunch, you should go for it! Personally, I'll probably tell the friends attending both the bachelorette and bridal shower to not give a shower gift since their bachelorette presence is a present itself.
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Katie · on April 15, 2021 at 10:34 AM
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I think giving the fact that it will in a different state, I'd go for it there is nothing wrong with having 2. I'm sure you will love them both and everyone invited will have a good time. Plus like you said you're only a bride once.
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Lady · on April 15, 2021 at 10:38 AM
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IF they're offering to throw it for you, then you can definitely accept if you want. I wouldn't invite anyone but the moms and BM's to both showers though - which is sounds like you woudln't anyway. Nothing wrong with having 2 showers!
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Meghan · on April 15, 2021 at 10:49 AM
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I think it is completely fine to have multiple showers, as long as the guest lists don't overlap. For example, we had 3 bridal showers. One in my home town with family and family friends. One in my wife's hometown with family and family friends. And then one of my bridesmaid threw me one with just my friends. None of the showers had the same guest list.
As far as the bachelorette party and luncheon, those are not gift giving events, so having both has nothing to do with having bridal/wedding showers. We had showers, a bachelorette weekend, and a bridal luncheon, which my mom hosted.
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Sara · on April 15, 2021 at 11:32 AM
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As long as the guest lists don't overlap, it's perfectly fine to have multiple showers!
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