Should i have a Bridal Shower?

Bridal showers can be thrown by anyone, not just the MOH and you can have multiple of them if you'd like and it is offered by others. I think you can accept from your friend and let your sister know that this visit is too booked and ask her if she wants to host when 2 weeks before the wedding. If you only want one and want your sister to host, you can wait until she is back and decline the other shower offer.

This is a situation where I'd simply be honest with my sister. I think you explained it well here..., you were booked virtually the entire weekend she was here and really wanted to focus on your visit with her. But now you have an offer by someone who has the time/energy to plan, and you're unexpectedly excited about it. I bet your sister will be happy for you!

Agreed 100% with Fleur: Just be honest with your sister. If your relationship is as close as you say, she'll understand.

Awh girl, I feel you! Both of my MOHs live in California and Texas (I live in Missouri) so trying to add them to anything (showers, dress shopping, planning, bach party) has been hard! Actually all of my bridal party lives out of state, and far from me. I think you need to talk it through with your sister, because you might be stressing out about this more than she is. Maybe ask her to throw you a bach party a couple of nights before the wedding, or be in charge of putting together day of emergency kits, or pick out fun shirts for you and your friends. So then she feels like she contributed.

Oh my gosh, I hope you still have a bridal party! Your sister is important to you, so she should still be up there with you when you say I DO! Just because she's not hosting a shower or in the same town as you, does not make her any less important. There's no written rule book that says your MOH HAS to do all of these things. So if she can only make it to some things, or plan other things, then that should be fine. It's not either of your faults that she lives so far away.

When I talked with my bridal party, I asked them to try to make it to a shower, but if they can't that's fine. My friends in Missouri are throwing me one bachelorette party, and then my MOHs are throwing me another smaller one a couple of nights before the wedding. My family in Wisconsin will be throwing me a shower (hosted by two of bridesmaids) and then my fiance's family will be throwing me a shower. If my MOHs and other bridesmaids can make it, wonderful, if not, I understand. Traveling is hard. But I really wanted to do a bach party with them, so we found a night when we were all in the same place.

Take a deep breath. Talk it through with your sister. And don't stress. Let me know how it goes! I'm rooting for you!

You could definitely have the bridal shower right before the wedding. That way anyone else who might be traveling in for your wedding won’t have to make two trips. Plus that would save them money so you might get that more expensive gift on your registry.

I think it would make sense to take up your friend on the offer to throw you a shower. Maybe she could still coordinate with your sister and they could schedule it for when your sister is back in town, but the details would be left up to your friend since she is local. Bridal showers usually involve gifts and in addition to it being difficult to plan something so last minute, it would also be unfair to guests.