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Should I have a bridal party?

Anjelica, on September 2, 2017 at 8:02 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

Me and my fiancé got engaged back in February but we haven't set a date yet because of financial and personal reasons but I've been trying to do little things here and there just so we're not overwhelmed with details when the day comes when we pick out a date. But I was wondering your guys opinion on bridesmaids/groomsmen. I don't have many friends, just one bff that I'd consider having in my wedding and my sister can't stand her and vice verse and my fiancé is torn between choosing his brother and his bff. So I was thinking maybe instead of having a bridal party maybe just have our family up there with us (parents and siblings)

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Latest activity by Rachel DellaPorte, on September 2, 2017 at 9:51 PM
  • Nicole
    Super September 2017
    Nicole ·
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    If I had to do it over, I'd not have a bridal party. Just my two cents!

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    If your family stands with you, they are by default the wedding party.

    Match matchy clothes are not what makes a wedding party. If you have 1 person or twenty, standing on either side of the bride and groom, they are the wedding party.

    You could have no wedding party, allow your family to be comfortable sitting down, and ask one person from each side to be a witness.

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  • JJAF
    Super October 2019
    JJAF ·
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    It's completely up to you. If you think there will be less drama that way, then don't have a bridal party.

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  • ShellyZ
    Devoted September 2017
    ShellyZ ·
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    We're not having a bridal party. I've found that you'll still need help from your nearest and dearest, and sometimes it feels weird to not have those people who are so very helpful in a bridal party. That said, I just found a way to thank those individuals. And at the end of the day they don't end up with a dress they won't wear again!

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  • Natalie
    VIP March 2017
    Natalie ·
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    I personally loved having my bestie and some good friends by my side, but I know others prefer no bridal party for various reasons. Just remember that parties don't have to be even or the same gender if you decide you want one. Good luck with whatever you decide.

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  • M
    Dedicated September 2017
    Mattie ·
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    Don't do a bridal party at all. I wish I hadn't!

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  • Steph N.
    Super October 2018
    Steph N. ·
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    You definitely do not have to have a bridal party. It's up to you. I'm having a MOH and FH is having a BM, and that's it. We considered doing one. He has lots of friends, and I have a couple good friends and some cousins I am close with. But I really like the idea of just having the MOH and BM.

    Plus it's cheaper. I just got a floral quote today, and I'm so happy I don't have to worry about buying 4+ more bouquets!

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  • Sarah
    Devoted August 2017
    Sarah ·
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    Honestly. For me at least. It was more of a headache. I wish we just did siblings and called It a day!

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  • Katherine
    Devoted July 2018
    Katherine ·
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    I'm just using my sister as MOH and that's all. She's the only person that I really care to have stand up next to me at my wedding (aside from FH, of course!)

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  • RaeGin
    Master September 2017
    RaeGin ·
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    We skipped it, and i think it has been less stressful for everyone.

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  • jona
    Devoted October 2017
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    I chose not to have a wedding party at all. I do not feel like i have missed out on anything. I understand why it is important to a lot of people and totally respect that. I have been in multiple weddings, and they were generally positive experiences, but have always personally enjoyed being a guest better. I have spent a lot of time planning with my mom which has been really nice. It has been very special to spend more time with her doing something so out of the ordinary and fun. I am not sure i would have taken the chance if i had a WP.

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  • D
    Savvy March 2018
    Deborah ·
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    We are having a small wedding party we are choosing to use a family (husband wife and 2 kids) and my bff and his bff my friends daughter and my 3 kids so super simple therefore no drama as we all get along together already no big party for us good luck with your day

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Less stress, less chaos on the day, less money (flowers, RD, SO's for them)

    I'd skip it.

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  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
    J. Clo ·
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    Definitely up to you. I chose my only sister as my MOH and could not be happier. No BP drama, finding a dress that fits different body types, why are some in the BP and others not, etc. Everyone else can attend as a guest.

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·
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    I'm having 3 of my adult nieces (didn't want to choose between all of my sisters or friends & still kept it family). I don't regret this; but I question if it was necessary?!?

    This is one of those things....you can do whatever you wish : )

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  • Rachel DellaPorte
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    The little things that you're doing here and there, nearly two years out and without a date, aren't really going to make much of an impact on the wedding day. Relax. You don't have any reason to seriously consider assembling a bridal party in the near future. You've got nearly two years to watch, think, and come to a conclusion.

    The broad strokes comes first -- not the details -- and we'll be right next to you through every stage of planning. Think about your overall vision for the event and how your budget melds with that vision. Honestly, it is far too early to start thinking about honor attendants.

    Right now, it's all about money -- what can you realistically save vs. how many guests do you intend to properly host. Always goes with quality over quantity. Always.

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