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Expert June 2018

Should i give my brother a plus one?

6-1-18, on January 12, 2018 at 3:20 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Sorry, lots of questions today and I just added aunts and uncles to my guest list which was previously only immediate family. That got me thinking..should I give my brother a plus one? He's 12 and I would assume he would bring a male friend who would also be 12 and only count as half a person in the venue's eyes. The only kid he'll know is my 5 year old cousin, but my FH's newly adopted 12 year old cousin will most likely be there too. I don't want him to be bored, but at the same time..he'll live and his family will be there anyway, and I don't know if I want a kid I don't know at my otherwise intimate wedding. What would you do?

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Latest activity by July18Bride, on January 13, 2018 at 6:43 AM
  • The Nuptials
    VIP July 2018
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    I wouldn't he's a kid, I think he will be ok. Plus you don't want your wedding to be 'play time', and I would assume that he and his friend could both eat adult meals, thus driving up costs, nope!

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
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    I'd prob let him bring a friend. It'll keep him occupied and out of trouble Smiley smile

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    No, I don't think it's necessary to give a kid a plus one.

    I'd also consider that if your little brother did invite a friend, that friend would be your parents' responsibility to watch. That kid's parents would be trusting that your parents will have their eyes on their kid the whole time he is there. Is that something your parents want to take on when their main focus is enjoying their daughter's wedding?
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  • 6-1-18
    Expert June 2018
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    Ooh I didn't think about that!
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  • P
    January 2018
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    I'm letting my cousin bring a friend. She's 13 and she's 1 out of 3 people on my dad's side. While my mom's side does have some kids her age, she doesn't really know them and I'm worried about her being bored since I won't really be able to entertain her all night.

    So if you have the space, I say let him bring a friend. That way you don't have to worry if he's having fun or not.
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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
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    Also, kids can make friends with each other fast. I had a bunch of young cousins (kids of my first cousins) and a bunch of kids of our friends who were all close in age to each other (ages 2-9). They all made friends with each other really quickly and palled around with the other kids that were their exact age or were within a year or two of each other. I'm guessing the two 12 year olds will be able to find some common ground.
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  • Lisa
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    He's 12... I wouldn't give him a plus 1 unless you just have the extra room for another person.
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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    Ha! Could depend on the kid. And the friend. ...I know I always got into way more trouble when I had an accomplice around. But also more fun! 😉
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  • NinjaBride
    Super June 2018
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    No, I would not give a child a plus one.
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  • Kelli
    Expert August 2018
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    I personally wouldn't give him a plus one. He has family there he should be fine and is 12 so he should be more than capable of keeping himself occupied
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  • bluevelvet
    Devoted October 2017
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    I would not give a child a plus one.

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  • GoodMOB
    April 2018
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    I would not give a child a plus one. He should use the wedding reception as a chance to interact with people of various ages. I think he might get into more trouble with another 12 year old friend there.

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  • July18Bride
    Super September 2022
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    No he is still a kid.
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