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Should i exchange my engagement ring for the type I've always wanted??

Katie, on May 11, 2019 at 4:33 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 29

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I'm so conflicted. My FH picked out a beautiful ring at Shane Co all on his own and I absolutely LOVE IT. When he proposed he immediately told me that if I didn't like it I had 60 days to exchange it. At the time I didn't even give it a second thought. Is it the ring I personally would have picked for myself? No. But it means so much to me that he picked it out on his own! And it truly is gorgeous.

Well a couple days ago, he randomly brought it up again to let me know I have about two weeks if I want to exchange it for something different. Now I can't stop thinking about it. And to make matters worse, Facebook and Google know I've been searching wedding stuff so I constantly get ads for frickin diamond wedding rings!! And they always seem to be the style I like!

I always wanted a solitaire style, you know - the classic engagement ring look. The ring he bought me has a large "cushion" shaped halo around a princess cut stone. The band itself is gorgeous.

What do you guys think? He would not be offended if I traded it, however I think it meant a lot to him how much I loved the ring. The first three pics are my ring, the 4th is an example of the ring I always envisioned having.

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Latest activity by Alisha, on September 3, 2019 at 6:48 PM

Expert June 2019
Grace · on May 11, 2019 at 4:40 PM
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I think your current ring is beautiful and I also think that down the line you’ll cherish it more since it’s what he picked out for you. My fiancé and I went to the store and he let me pick mine out a while before he actually asked and I obviously love it but part of me wishes I had just let him get me what he thought I’d like. Two of my friends recently got engaged and their fiancés picked out their rings with a few guidelines lol but they keep saying things about “how good he did” and I wish I could say that about mine now.
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Expert October 2020
Soon2BSmith · on May 11, 2019 at 4:41 PM
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This may go against popular opinion but I think you should get the ring you really want.
He is reminding you because he wants you to have what you want and deserve. I've had a similar discussion with my friends and coworkers, some who have been married over 19 years, all have been married over 8... And only 1 of them out of 6 has had a ring upgrade. They made it a point to tell me to get what I want.
So you may have this ring for a very long time, it should be what you envisioned.
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Katie · on May 11, 2019 at 4:50 PM
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Oh no, you and PP both have excellent points and totally opposite opinions 😂
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VIP September 2019
· on May 11, 2019 at 4:57 PM
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I love your ring but that is the type of rings I was drawn to. I had my heart set on a ring. My FH and I went together and looked at tons of rings. We decided on mine which was mostly my choice. He ordered it and later surprised me. However there are days I think about the initial ring I had picked but the jewelry shop did not have in stock. I know my FH would be upset if he knew that daysI think about the other ring. I think best advice is stop looking at other rings. I do it and also do it with dresses. It is bad idea. It puts doubts or regrets and makes us second guess things. I truly think your actual ring is stunning and so pretty. He did a wonderful job. Congratulations
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 11, 2019 at 5:00 PM
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Since he’s brought it up twice, I thank him again and let him know you’d love a more simple classic ring. Go get the one you want! Maybe go together so you can try on a few and when you get that special feeling he can be there to experience your joy with you.💍
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 11, 2019 at 5:01 PM
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The ring he bought you is beautiful but not anywhere close to the solitaire style you love. I totally get it. You’re lucky he’s encouraging you to get one you love. 😊
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Jasmine · on May 11, 2019 at 5:03 PM
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I absolutely adore your ring! He REALLY did do an amazing job to have picked it all on his own. I would personally just keep it and always have that story with me. My fiance did a pull over on me. He had a friend sneakily investigate what my dream ring was and when she found out, she relayed it back to him and when he proposed, my heart dropped. I wasn't expecting a proposal at all, let alone the ring I had previously discussed with our friend.
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Wendy · on May 11, 2019 at 6:02 PM
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I would go to the store and try on other rings, to see if there's one there that you cant live without. You will wear this ring forever and for that reason, you should love it!
With my first marriage, my future husband picked out a ring that I didn't really love, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings, so I wore it for 13 years of marriage.... never really being happy with it.
With my second marriage, I told my future husband that I'd love the opportunity to help pick out something I'd be in love with. He was not offended at all and completely understood. We ended up having a great time at the ring store and bought a beautiful matching set!
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D · on May 11, 2019 at 6:45 PM
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Your ring is absolutely gorgeous!! If it's not what you had envisioned that's ok! I would take him up on his offer and look at other rings and you may find out you had the perfect one afterall.
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Cassidy · on May 11, 2019 at 6:52 PM
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Your ring is beautiful!
But if you envisioned something different and he brought it up again, suggest the 2 of you go look. You can try some on and decide if you really want to change. Maybe once you try some others you’ll decide don’t want to or it will help you decide if you do want to switch it
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Katie · on May 11, 2019 at 6:53 PM
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Thank you so much, I really do love it. I agree with you about looking after the fact. I just went on Facebook and edited my "ad preferences" and was actually able to delete a few ring companies, as well as "jewelry" as a topic.
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Katie · on May 11, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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Aww that's so sweet! I'm seriously so conflicted, but I'm leaning towards keeping it just because he picked it out and that means so much. It's not like I'm unhappy with it at all, I just have that "what if..." feeling. If anything, I now know to block out any and all wedding dresses once I buy one because I don't want to deal with this feeling again lol
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Jasmine · on May 11, 2019 at 8:19 PM
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Oh my goodness, YES!! I know the feeling. I've done it with my first marriage. Looking up things and constantly changing them because after I found "the one" I saw other stuff and wanted the new things i saw lol. It really is gorgeous though and for him to have put so much effort to want to do it on his own is just amazingly sweet to begin with.
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Devoted September 2020
Katie · on May 11, 2019 at 9:35 PM
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YES! So much this! Alright, I think I'm keeping it =)
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Sandy · on May 11, 2019 at 10:06 PM
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You always have the option of buying a similar ring to the one you envisioned for a different occasion!
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Expert September 2019
Vanessa · on May 11, 2019 at 10:24 PM
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The ring your FH chose is absolutely beautiful! Mine is similar. We went to Jared’s and customized my ring together. He picked the band I picked the setting and together we made the most beautiful ring ever!
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Jennifer · on May 11, 2019 at 10:58 PM
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Please keep the ring he got you.
1) He might have spoken the words, but I highly doubt that he meant that he wanted to see you exchange something he put a lot of time, energy and obviously money into picking JUST for you.
2) I think he would be hurt if you did exchange it
3) The Ring is freaking gorgeous!
4) Be Happy he cared enough to get something- and something so pretty. A lot of girls would kill for that ring!
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Super November 2019
Katie · on May 12, 2019 at 1:11 AM
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I am not a fan of gold at all but my MIL gave my FH her engagement ring and it is gold. I absolutely love it because he is proud of it and it means a lot to him but it is nothing that I would pick out.. I would suggest keeping your ring because your FH took the time to shop for it and them maybe for your first anniversary get the one you like..
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Super November 2019
Katie · on May 12, 2019 at 1:13 AM
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Also to add he may say get the one you want but deep down he may have hard feelings and think his choice wasn't "good enough" if you exchanged it
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Katie · on May 12, 2019 at 11:08 PM
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You're absolutely right
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