Should i cancel the venue?

I'm sorry you're upset. You mentioned that your fiance and you are upset at what your parents are spending for your bare bones day? I feel that if you're not paying for it, you get what you get and you don't get upset.


FH and I are paying for most of our wedding. His dad randomly sent us a check for 2k after we said we didn't want help and my mom bought my dress because she went with me to find one and insisted. The rest of our 15-20k wedding is being paid for by us.
As for canceling, that's up to you. I think it would be rude to your parents..unless they feel the same. Also, our venue didn't budge on their prices. I don't think the majority of venues will haggle.
I'm stressing big time about money..even though we have it saved. I've also thought about not having a wedding for a second. But, it will be great.

View Quoted Comment Hi Sara, thanks so much for your response. I think you misunderstood my intent with the statement about my parents. We are extremely appreciative but we don’t want them to spend money they don’t have to. They are frustrated with the venue too, but because there really aren’t any other options available we all feel stuck/locked in to this place that’s making all of us not 100% excited about the day.

View Quoted Comment Oh man, I did misunderstand. I'm sorry. You're upset that they're paying so much for so little. I would be too. Everything wedding related seems to be inflated in price. It's insane. If I was unhappy with my venue, I would cancel and find another. It's not worth it to be so stressed about a day that's supposed to the best day ever.


Can you guys get the deposit back or would that be lost? Did you stop looking when you found your venue or there other unexplored options that maybe haven't been thought of yet? I know I was looking into restaurants that also rented out the entire place for weddings. We almost had our wedding at a haufbrauhaus but our guest list was too big. I would have loved that. We were going to have the reception at a firehall but FH wanted somewhere where we wouldn't have to clean after. We ended up going with a banquet hall that was priced right. I don't know how many venues I emailed before we picked one that fit right.
Best of luck!

I love my venue, but I cannot stand the venue coordinator that comes along with it. She is so unreliable and horrible at communicating, my hope is that it will get better now that my date is getting closer. There are some things that she said yes to at the beginning but has since changed the main thing being she promised white folding chairs for the ceremony now she is telling no that's at the other venue they own down the street. Either way being frustrated with her has made me dislike my venue a bit. At one point I wanted to cancel but I love the location of my venue and the look of the venue so I decided not to. But I think we all feel that way sometimes.

I would say if you, your fiance and your parents are very unhappy with the venue then I would just double-check the contract because most venues may allow you to cancel as long as it's as if it's within a certain time frame. So before you cancel I would look around at other venues, make sure the prices are affordable and they have the date that you guys want and meet the expectations that you have before canceling this venue because you would hate to cancel the venue and then you have a hard time finding another venue with what you want at the date you want. But again just double-check that you can cancel and be fully refunded any money that's a put towards it.