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Should i Bring my Fiancé to pick a dress

Kelly, on December 15, 2019 at 9:55 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 20

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I am having buyers remorse about the wedding dress I bought roughly two weeks ago on Black Friday. It is a beautiful a line dress with a tulle skirt and lace/sequin details on the bodice. I was torn between this dress and another dress which is more fit and flare style which i knew my fiancé would like more because it shows more of my curves (read: butt). I could only take photos in the gown I bought so I don’t have pictures of myself in them both. Anyway, I called the salon Saturday to see if they can hold the dress order and I’m going back Wednesday. They said they couldn’t guarantee letting me switch styles but they could call the designer and ask (both dresses I like are the same designer). At this point, I have no idea what dress to get. I think if I end up with the a line I’ll have to buy a second dress that’s more fitted to make my fiancé happy. I’m contemplating bringing him with me Wednesday to see what he likes better. Has anyone ever done this? I never knew if I wanted to look like a “princess” at my wedding or more “sexy”. I never had a dream dress or anything like that. Attached photos of me in the dress I ordered originally and a photo of the one I want to try again. A line is D2363 and second is D2770 both Essence of Australia. Should i Bring my Fiancé to pick a dress 1

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on December 17, 2019 at 4:03 AM

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Kelly · on December 15, 2019 at 9:57 PM
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Here is me in a dress similar to the fit and flare/mermaid one
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Kristen · on December 15, 2019 at 10:01 PM
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In regards to bringing the fiance that is all on you. I know I want my FH surprised so I would not want to bring him but some brides do. All depends on your preference. I think if you go with the second it is still bridal so go for what your heart wants more.
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Sexypoodle · on December 15, 2019 at 10:01 PM
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I like the 2nd one a little more. If you’re ok with it, show the dresses to your FH. I picked a dress out and showed my FH a pic online. He liked it too but never saw me actually wear the dress and he doesn’t know I bought it.
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Chrysta · on December 15, 2019 at 10:19 PM
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I think a lot of brides are bringing their fiancés dress shopping with them these days. Does your FH want to go with you? Or is he adamant about not seeing the dress until the big day? If you do not want him to actually see you in the dress, you could always show him stock photos of both dresses and see what he says. Seeing a photo of a dress on a model is a completely different experience than actually seeing it on your significant other. I was super hesitant about the dress I fell in love with because it was so ”out of the box” from anything else I had ever seen. I finally ended up showing my FH a stock picture of it and I am soooooo glad I did. It absolutely put my mind at ease. FH wants me to go with him to pick out what he will wear as well. And, even though I will know what he is wearing, I also know I am going to be floored when I see him standing at the end of the aisle waiting to marry me. You look absolutely stunning in the fit and flair dress! I say if it will put your mind at ease, either show your FH a photo of the dress or take him with you!
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Kelly · on December 15, 2019 at 10:22 PM
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He wants to go and has asked to before but I always thought I wanted to do the traditional “not until the wedding” thing. But at this point I’m so stressed out about it that I almost don’t care
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Chrysta · on December 15, 2019 at 10:33 PM
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For your own peace of mind, I say take him. Or at least show him a picture. Guys have horrible memories anyway – he will completely forget what it looks like before the wedding LOL
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Veronica · on December 15, 2019 at 10:40 PM
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I am very traditional so my husband had no clue what my dress looked like. This is no way I would have wanted him to go shopping with me or for me to even show him a picture of the dress. I wanted the first time he saw the dress be on our wedding day.
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Neeva · on December 15, 2019 at 10:56 PM
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I think both are beautiful but you need to be certain. Take him with you for sure, I am not superstitious and like making bit decisions with my FH so showed him pictures
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Erika · on December 15, 2019 at 11:53 PM
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Im favoring the first dress over the 2nd one.
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Rachel · on December 16, 2019 at 8:13 AM
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Girl, you will stun him in ANY dress!! Go with the dress YOU love. There will be plenty of parties, events, dates and more where you can wear a dress to impress him. But your wedding is the day you get to wear what makes you feel most beautiful.

And just two cents from a gal who wore a mermaid style, if you want to be able to sit down for dinner or walk up/down your alter stairs, do not alter the dress to be super tightly fitted around your bum. They clip you in so tight at the bridal shop, but practically you wouldn’t get it altered that tight. You need some room to be able to move your legs. So just keep that in mind.
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Izzykern · on December 16, 2019 at 8:27 AM
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If it would make you feel better about the decision, bring your FH with. My FH also voiced his opinion about wanting to see me in a fit n flare/ tighter dress but I love the a-line princess silhouette. So In the end I decided on a tight lace ceremony dress and a fit n flare Hayley Paige flowy dress for my reception!
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Futuremrsm · on December 16, 2019 at 8:30 AM
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I feel like you need to focus more on what you like and not what you think your fiance will like. It's your dress and you will look stunning in anything. Hes going to be looking at you and think you look beautiful in any dress. Pick whatever one makes you feel good!
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Taylor · on December 16, 2019 at 8:38 AM
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Your FH should think you look beautiful in whatever you choose. I would choose what you want to wear. You'll be gorgeous in either option!
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Anna · on December 16, 2019 at 9:23 AM
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If you need the peace of mind then take him with you. I do prefer the 2nd dress (one you haven't tried)-- but I am biased because I have tried it on myself and it's incredible.
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Kari · on December 16, 2019 at 9:49 AM
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I love the A-line one (and know you do too). Definitely go with what makes you feel beautiful and comfortable. YOU need to love your dress too.

When I tried on dresses there was one other girl at the shop and she was there with her fiance. It seemed a little weird to me, but it's whatever works for you and your partner. There's no right or wrong as long as you are both on board. My FH does not want to see my dress or see me in it before the wedding and would prefer I went with whatever I liked rather than ruin the surprise for him. Even if I picked a dress totally different that what he envisioned I think having that first look moment is so much more important to him than the dress I am wearing.

Why don't you ask your FH? You could say, "I found a dress I love but I'm not sure you'll like the style, do you want to go with me to see the two dresses I'm debating and let me know what you think?" He'll let you know whether he'd rather it be a surprise or rather have a say. If he wants to go and you'd feel more confident getting his opinion, then do it!

You can always also show him photos, or just try the the dresses but without any accents (veil, hair done, etc) so he won't see your complete look until the wedding day if you want to get his opinion and still have some element of surprise.
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Lecette · on December 16, 2019 at 1:03 PM
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There is no right or wrong way to do things it is tour wedding please keep that in mind! People will already talk about traditions but are the same people who have lived with their spouse before they got married etc. there is nothing wrong with it. Times are just changing just do what make you happy!!
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Catherine · on December 16, 2019 at 1:11 PM
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Pick the dress YOU love! he will love you in anything the second dress is a combination of what he likes and the first dress you bought. i think you're stunning in both!!!
i wouldn't bring my fiance only because i want to surprise him on our wedding day, but that is up to you
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Courtney · on December 16, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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Choose the dress that makes YOU feel most beautiful. You look gorgeous in both. If you feel most comfortable and most yourself in one of them, that will radiate through you on your big day.
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Melle · on December 16, 2019 at 6:05 PM
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They both are pretty. Honestly I'd go with what you're comfortable with and like on yourself. He's gonna like you in whatever you're in because you'll be beautiful regardless.
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Jennifer · on December 17, 2019 at 4:03 AM
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Ooooh they are both stunning! I just love the mermaid so much (that's my silhouette too), but the A-line is gorgeous on you as well. Which one do you feel most beautiful and confident in? I would also make sure you get that answer from your designer before you start entertaining the option of switching your dress out.
Honestly, if it will put your mind at ease, show some pics to your FH! After 5 bridal salons, I was at a complete loss as to what dress to get, and I was really concerned about FH liking my dress that I couldn't really make a decision. I ended up bringing my FH with me to salon #6 and I'm so glad I did. My mind is at complete ease that he'll love it, plus I'm making changes to the neckline and back so it will look slightly different than what he saw.
You just gotta do what you think is right. Is your peace of mind worth your FH having a bit of a clue what your dress will look like? He probably won't remember any of the details!
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