Should I ask my friend to be my bridesmaid?

Uneven parties are becoming much more common. I wouldn't worry about the sides not being even. As for your friend, I wouldn't explain/tell her you're not asking her. If she asks you could just Day you're keeping your bridal party small. Also, its recommended to wait until 6-8 months out to ask your bridal party so hold off until fall. Things might change by then.

If you don't want her don't ask.

You are inviting 100-120 people and don't have close girlfriends or family members? These people are close enough and important enough to you that have invited them to your wedding, yet you don't have a couple of close friends?

I don't think you really need to have even numbers. And if you have a friend you don't want to have stand up, don't ask her. I had a similar situation and just like mentioned above, I told her we were keeping it small.

I agree with PP! Also, 100-120 is not really that small. None of those 100-120 guests could be in your wedding party?

Your BP is not limited to women, if you have close male friends. Otherwise, go with uneven sides. WW is full of stories from brides who asked non-friends to be in the BP and it backfired.

Uneven parties aren't a big deal. We will be having one.

I wouldn't ask anyone you didn't feel 100% confident in. If you think she's dramatic and flaky, that could escalate during the planning process. Honestly, I'd stick to your sister and leave it at that. Bridal parties only cause more headaches

It seems like I should but aside from my sister and my high school friend, I've grown apart from my friends from high and I don't have many friends from childhood since I moved in 6th grade.

But yeah, I wasn't going to ask her or bring it up, but I know she will. I feel like she is expecting to be my MOH or at least a bridesmaid since she was engaged for like 3 months when we were 19 and she asked me to be her MOH. I don't want to hurt feelings. I actually told my FH that I would love to just have his brother and my sister, but his 2 close friends should really be groomsmen.

Sorry for the rant haha thanks for all of your input!

You have lots of time too btw. I would wait before asking. You never know how your feelings towards people might change.

That's very true. I'm hoping it will not be a big deal in about 8 months when we decide to ask our groomsmen and bridesmaids.

Stick with who you really want. Uneven parties are fine. And if she asks, just say you decided to keep it small but really look forward to having her celebrate in your wedding. She can still be invited to your bachelorette if you choose to have one and other wedding events.

@Erica- There is no requirement to have her in your party simply because you were in hers. Relationships change, that is why it is wise to wait until closer to the wedding to ask anyone. Choose who you have closest to you right now and know will calm your nerves while being by your side the day of your wedding.

I know EXACTLY how you feel, unfortunately i made the mistake of asking anyway even though i had doubts. Over the years I lost pretty much every friend I had. I had 3 kids and just drifted apart from everyone. My MOH and I have been best friends since first grade so I didn't hesitate to ask her but oh how I wish I had. We have been drifting apart as well our schedules conflict so I never see her and she never has time to help me with anything. I would much rather have asked my sister who is a BM and I much rather of had an intimate wedding party just MOH and Best man. my advice is to NOT ask her especially if you have doubts! talk to FH! he should understand and his groomsmen should understand as well!

We are having a pretty uneven BP and it doesn't bother me in the least. I wouldn't ask someone just for the sake of having even sides.

100-120 guests isn't really small though.

I'm currently planning wedding #2. I was first married in 2002 shortly after I graduated college. My MOH was my sister, had 3 of my college roommates, the grooms sister and the grooms cousin (whom he actually asked - was really awkward as I hardly knew her). Anyway - a year or so after my wedding two of my old roommates I hardly even spoke to........ For this wedding - my sister will be in it and only one of those roommates who were in my first wedding is even invited as a guest. I'm having my sister as MOH this time, my daughter (7) and FH daughter (7) stand up with me. I bring all of this up as if you think they are kind of flaky or kind of in and out of a friendship with them anyway - you don't have to ask them. Let it be uneven. If there's someone you are very close with, sure, ask them, but it's not necessary.

OP your wedding is more than a year out. Wait a little bit before picking a bridal party.

You don't have to explain anything to the flaky and dramatic friend. You can leave it very simply that you and FH chose to have a very small WP. Do not ask her. You will regret having someone like that in your BP.

I'm not having even numbers, I think it's totally fine. I don't want to ask people just for the sake of having even bridal party numbers, it's all about who you want by your side on your wedding day! Don't sweat it.