Just need to decide if this is a good or bad to ask this question. A little background: My fh has been married before. The marriage was only like 8 months, but majority of that time they were separated. He hardly talks about her unless i ask a question about that relationship.
Well his mom is a great woman, except she always wants to hang out, get to know me more. I brought it up to my fh how its sweet that his mom wants to do things, i just feel very over whelmed by it. I should also mention she has no daughters. Well he brought it up in a way that in a way that he did not mention to her and she stopped Well now with the wedding its happening again. She keeps saying how she wants me to go with her to help get a dress for the wedding. I have told her, she can wear what she wants as long as its nice. She even schedule the day without me saying okay. My mom isn't even like this. In a way i'm curious to know how she was with his ex. No, i'm in no way jealous or intimidated by his ex. He did mention how she did not want to get to know her. I do worry both my fh and her will think this and get their feelings hurt somehow. Another reason i worry is cause i honestly can't be alone with her. I am very respectful to her. She does make certain comments that make me feel a little comfortable. Its more her beliefs. I stay quiet and just pray that we are never alone lol. I do love him and i want to respect his mother. But i feel like one day i won't be able to hold in and say something i will regret. I just want to ask him how his mom was with his ex during the wedding planning. Is it a good idea to ask? Also maybe i can get through this day. I am thinking of suggesting to him to come with us.
But thank you so much for reading and your advice.