Should i ask all of my sisters to be my bridesmaids?

Under 18 is a jr bridesmaid. They are very common.


At the same time, many people prefer to be guests without any duties. So they choose to enjoy themselves instead of doing a reading, ushering guests to the ceremony, being a guestbook attendant, etc that are often thankless jobs.

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I just dont know bc idk who she would be paired with as far as the groomsmen because they're all going to be my FH's age. So much older than her, and i dont know if it'll look right. I just really dont wanna hurt her feelings if i ask my 2 sisters and not her. I know if it were me id feel left out. So im kinda feeling nervous.

I think at 16 she’s more than old enough to be a bridesmaid or “junior bridesmaid”. Granted she won’t be able to drink or do things 21 year olds can, but that’s not the end of the world. I was 17 when I was my sisters bridesmaid. I did many things with the “older” bridesmaids and my sister ,except the bars and things.

I would pick who you can't imagine not having by your side regardless of age. Who cares if the groomsmen are much older than her. She just has to walk up and down the aisle with them and into the reception. She isn't marrying the person or forced to spend the entire evening with that person.

View Quoted Comment Why does she have to be paired with anyone outside of walking out of the ceremony after it's over? It's very common in that case and people don't even blink because they all know neither of them are together.


Have you asked her how she feels before you decide? Go to the source. Either you want her for the role or you don't.

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True, i mean i was a bridesmaid in my moms wedding and i was in middle school. lol

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Walking down the isle, my sister is little, she'd be 16. Walking with a grown man in his 30's. Its just not equal is what im saying. Why would i go to the source and ask her ahead of time, thats ruining the surprise of asking, i said i would ask our mom first. Bc its not "Either you want her or dont"... smh Shes my sister! Why would i have to sit here and make it seem like i want her to be apart of my wedding if i didnt. Grow up. Like seriously if you're gonna comment just to be condesending you can comment on someone elses page. Thanks!

I think 16 is old enough to be a bridesmaid, especially if she’s on the more mature side. My sister is a decent amount older than me and around 16 was when we could start hanging out more.

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I know! Thats a really good point, i love all my sister to pieces!! Not having her and having my other 2 sisters woundnt be right. I was just thinking about how they wouldnt be equal, you know like size wise and what not. Her being 16 and walking with a 30-35 year old. But either way, everyone at the wedding is family anyways so it woudnt be anything awkward me and my fiance have two kids and been together 11 years. lol So the people in our wedding EVERYONE knows. Good point. Thanks babe.

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Makes sense!

The composition of your wedding party is totally up to you; there are no rules. If you want your sister to stand by your side, I don't see why age has any relevance to the issue. You can have a 10-year old bridesmaid if you want; lots of parents have their children in their wedding party and it's a beautiful thing! Choose those closest to you who you can't imagine celebrating your day without. If there are other reasons you don't want to choose her, totally understandable, I just don't see what age has to do with it.

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Yeah i dont have any issue with my sister being in my wedding party at all! I love her. I was just thinking about her being paired with a groomsmen much older than her and her maybe not being comfortable since she is such a shy person. But i now dont think it'll be an issue. She might even be paired with one of our brothers or family member since my fiance is having my brothers be his groomsmen. Lol So it'll be totally fine.

I don't see the reason the 16 year old sister couldn't be included unless it's an adult only wedding. My little sister is 16 (would've been 17 for our original wedding date) and was going to be a bridesmaid and still intending to have her as one for the reschedule though she'll be 18 by that point.

Bridesmaids should be nearest and dearest to you. If you're close to her then she should be included. I'm not close to my sister at all, talk to her about once a month via text and once a year phone call, so she wouldnt be my bridesmaid.

My one friend made her younger sister who was 16 at the time of the wedding maybe even 15 maid of honor. Granted the rest of us bridesmaids did the major work but the friends sister was just fine. Bridesmaids can be any age and 16 is old enough. Might not be able to help as much but if the other 2 sisters get to be bridesmaids then the youngest should get it as well.

I don't see an issue with her being a bridesmaid/jr. bridesmaid and walking down the aisle with a groomsman! Your guests know that they aren't a couple and are just walking down the aisle together, so I wouldn't think too far into it!

I was a bridesmaid in my aunt's wedding when I was 15, and I was paired with a 30 year old. No one paid attention to that, nor cared!

After reading the comments it seems like you may also be concerned with her comfort level as she’s shy. I think that’s sweet to take into consideration. I would still ask her to be a bridesmaid and later ask if she’s comfortable walking with assigned groomsman. This is your fiancé and your wedding so you can make the rules as you go! You don’t have to stick with tradition if that doesn’t work with you.

I personally think 16 is old enough to be a "real" bridesmaid, as long as she doesn't go to any bachelorette-style events with alcohol. But some people call them junior bridesmaids at that age. Do whichever you think is best and whichever title will make her happiest

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I agree, thank you love.

Aw absolutely and I think some times when writing something messages may come across another way than attended. Wishing you the best with planning! Know it can be stressful and sooooo many things to think about but stay true to you and your fiancé!