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Shannon
Just Said Yes November 2019

Should he get a groomsmen gift still?

Shannon, on September 17, 2019 at 3:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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My fiance's good friend was going to be our officiant. He backed out after he didn't approve of my reaction to the bachelor party (whole other story). My fiance is thinking of getting him a groomsmen gift still even though he chose to back out. I kinda feel this says "here's a gift since you were supposed to be a part of our wedding and my future wifey 'made you' back out" and believe since he chose to childishly back out he shouldn't get a groomsmen gift. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Angel, on September 18, 2019 at 12:43 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    Without any info on what happened, I’d say this is entirely up to your FH as it’s his friend.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I wouldn't give a gift to anyone who isn't participating in the wedding, for whatever reason, but I agree with PP that it's really your FH's call.

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
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    I don't think he should get a groomsmen gift if he backed out, especially if it wasn't for a good reason.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I wouldn't give a gift to someone that isn't the officiant or groomsman.

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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    I think this should be up to your FH.
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  • L. Thomson
    Expert October 2020
    L. Thomson ·
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    I'd look at it as a peace offering. Pick your battles.
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  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Let this be between your FI and his friend . Gift or no gift, it is not your business. Let FI do what he wants, no advice from anyone including you , just as you would likely want to keep things with a friend of yours, between the two of you .
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  • Shannon
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Shannon ·
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    Thanks all! I get it's his choice and I should have been more clear in my post. FH asked me what I thought about him still getting a gift which I explained my reasoning on no, I don't think he should. I just wanted to see what others thought Smiley smile
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    I wouldn't give a gift to someone who backed out no matter what the reasoning for it was. The reason for giving wedding party gifts are to say "thank you" for being apart of our wedding not just because of the friendship
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  • Shannon
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Shannon ·
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    Yes, exactly my point!! Should we get all of our friends wedding party type gifts then? Lol
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  • Katie
    Super November 2019
    Katie ·
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    If that was the case then everyone attending the wedding would get a gift and it would no longer be special
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  • Kaylee
    Dedicated August 2020
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    I wouldn’t give him a gift since he isn’t participating in the wedding.
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  • Angel
    Savvy December 2022
    Angel ·
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    No gift. You are spending thousands on this wedding and the gift is meant as a thank you for there help and sharing that day standing next to you. 100% no. ALSO those should be people who have been there and supported, strengthened, and helped through whatever guidance your relationship.
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