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Should children ceremony?

Sierra, on March 4, 2018 at 11:54 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 16
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It was just brought to my attention that we maybe should not allow children to come to our ceremony beside the flower girl. I was told that having children present could ruin the ceremony. I was wondering if I could get others opinions on the matter.
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  • Mrs.W.
    VIP June 2018
    Mrs.W. ·
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    I've heard a lot of stories of kids making noises through the ceremony and being disruptive. But it's really a preference. A lot of my close friends have kids and wouldn't be able to come if we didn't allow kids (traveling or their family that would watch the kids are coming as well.) So we will definitely be allowing children.

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  • FutureMrsG
    Super March 2019
    FutureMrsG ·
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    It is totally a personal choice I’ve been to many wedding where the kids are well behaved but i have also been to many where there were children running wild or crying or just being disruptive because they are bored I’m sure. We aren’t having children at our wedding except for our own because they are all in the wedding.
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    A lot of it depends on what you mean by ruining the ceremony. A baby might cry, or a toddler might talk loudly, at an inopportune moment. Some people would think of that as ruining the ceremony; others would find it a sweet reminder of family.

    Personally, I'd go for small children over drunk and handsy older relatives. But you have to think about what's important to you.

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  • SoKatiiee
    Devoted June 2018
    SoKatiiee ·
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    I agree with everyone else, it’s based off of personal choice. I am a children’s minister so clearly I love all the joyful noises children bring to any occasion. all of “my kids” are getting invitations and I’m having their own table for them at the receptation.

    However, my fsil would have freaked if she even had more than one kid at her vow renewals (she eloped first). She HATES kids and made sure no kids were in attendence
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  • O
    Master October 2017
    O ·
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    One toddler kept saying my name in the beginning of my ceremony, but otherwise the kids were well behaved.
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  • Danielle W.
    Savvy September 2019
    Danielle W. ·
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    We’re having a no kid ceremony and reception. I’m an early ed teacher so I adore kids. But because I’m an early ed teacher, I know just how bored young children get easily. Everyone who’s invited will all have kids under the age of 3. No thanks!!
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  • Adriana
    Expert October 2017
    Adriana ·
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    I had a no children ceremony and reception. The ceremony was an issue for one guest, with a 3 year old, we hired a babysitter for the 35 minutes, and everyone was happy. Ultimately, probably a know your crowd, and personal preference situation.
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  • Mrs. Sponge
    Master April 2018
    Mrs. Sponge ·
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    I wanted my son to be the only child at my wedding. I lost that battle and now we are inviting immediate family kids. My son and my nephew will behave just fine during the ceremony and have a blast hanging out together at the reception. I can't say the same for the kids on FH's side. FH's nephew has no discipline and runs around like a mad man. Fortunately, FBIL agreed to bring their nanny to watch FH's nephew's who are both younger. FH's niece is about a year older than my son and will attend the wedding. I'm hoping she will behave, but she didn't behave at FSIL's wedding, she spent most of the ceremony tugging on FSIL's dress and interrupting the ceremony. I'm not thrilled that she will be there. I'm always team no kids at a wedding, I just don't think weddings are a place for kids.

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  • MrsHanlon
    Devoted July 2018
    MrsHanlon ·
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    At first my FH and I agreed no children except for our flower girl and ring bearer, 8 and 5 years old. I'm a preschool teacher, so I just wanted one day for us without children running around. However, we now have about eight children coming to the wedding, all from my side. If you're up in the air about it, there's ways to curb disturbances throughout the ceremony, maybe the kids get a bag of crayons and coloring pages or a basket of books to look at, etc....

    I know a lot of people are anti-kids at weddings, but I just couldn't say no. I think they bring innocence and humor to special occasions. At the end of the day, the choice is yours and people should understand either way.
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  • Chandell
    Dedicated August 2018
    Chandell ·
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    Its all up to you, what do you feel about it?. I have had the same issue but I came to the decsion to o my have my nieces and my little sister there along with my own daughters. It makes a little easier and just get an older family guest that isbeither a teenager or an elderly and it will be fun.
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  • An
    Super September 2019
    An ·
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    It is totally fine to have a child-free wedding -- lots of people do it. However, you can't invite them to the reception and not the ceremony. This is rude first of all but also truly inconveniences the parents. It has to be all or nothing. I would also encourage you to make an exception for newborns that are nursing if that is a factor.

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  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·
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    It's up to you! We have 2 flower girls and there's a big chance that the 5 year old will get a little silly during the ceremony, but honestly, it wouldn't ruin anything for me. I think it would ease my nerves of standing up in front of so many people, if she started babbling on about something or bothering her brother who's the ring bearer. Of course her parents would stop whatever she's doing pretty quickly and the ceremony would carry on. It'll be a cute memory to have, and something to tease her about years later. Other than the kids in the bridal party there won't really be any young kids at our ceremony, but even if there were, a little crying or an outburst really wouldn't make a difference to me. But everyone is different!

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  • Michelle
    VIP September 2018
    Michelle ·
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    I think that is up to you! It depends on the children who go. Some people have very well mannered children and it wouldn’t be a problem and others have harder to handle kids who may cause disturbances. We plan to pay a girl from FILs church (where we’re getting married) 30$ to watch kids for 1 hour. Anyone who wants to can drop their kids off in the play room at the church and she’ll take care of them for the ceremony. Then they can pick them back up after.
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  • Kimberly
    VIP March 2018
    Kimberly ·
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    We're having children at ours. I'm putting out some small bags for kids for the ceremony with little wedding coloring books & crayons, and a couple small snacks
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  • S
    Savvy October 2018
    Sara ·
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    We are inviting kids to our wedding. Just to many out of town family and friends with little ones. Our ceremony is going to be short and I'm not worried about it. Whatever happens becomes part of the joy of the day.
    We are extra lucky that there is a play room at our venue and we are hiring a friends adult daughter to watch the kids in that room so parents can have at least a little time without them if they want that.
    Its really up to you and FH. Go with what you are comfortable with. Good luck!
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  • Robyn
    Expert October 2018
    Robyn ·
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    We are inviting kids to our wedding. Currently about 25% of the guest list are kids. Personally I don't mind a baby crying or toddlers talking. I also want a super short ceremony so that factors in as well.
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