Should a bride help to offset the bachelorette cost?

Where I come from, everyone shares the cost of the bachelorette party which will sometimes cover the cost of the bride’s share though personally I am a big advocate for the bride contributing her fair share (since these events can become pricey very quickly).

If your bachelorette party hasn’t yet taken place, I think it would be fair if you were to cover some of the expenses - and very well appreciated by the girls no doubt.

I think it is a really nice idea to pay for one of the meals!

I think offering to cover a brunch for the girls would be nice and show you care about them. Maybe you all could get together and discuss budgets and see what you can change in your bach plans to better suit everyone. It sounds like she meant well but that this was a bigger task than she could handle. Goodluck and Congratulations.

I don't think it's weird at all either! I actually plan on either paying for our Uber/Lyfts, drinks for one night, or brunch/dinner one day. It's a nice way to give back to them!

Honestly, if you want to pay for something for them, then do it. It's your money and you get to decide how and what you spend it on. Your MOH might not want that because of pride, but ultimately you do what you want with your money. If you're still wanting to do brunch, you could slip off to the restroom before the bills come and just tell your waiter that you'll be paying for everyone.

Personally in that situation I would "demand" that I am paying the other girl's share. If you were mortified by the original cost I don't think it's right to leave them with more. I don't fully understand your MOH's pride thing, because at this point it is what it is and it's kind of rude to expect everyone else to have to pay for more because one person is going through some stuff.

Only paying for a brunch in the grand scheme of things doesn't seem like you're trying to offset some of the cost (because relative to the cost of everything else combined I would assume it's not much) so that's more of a thank you. If you want to truly help with the cost then paying for this girl's share and/or paying for one or two full activities is the way to go. Not saying you have to because yes, normally the bride doesn't have to pay, but if you truly want to make the cost easier those are better than just paying for a single meal, in my opinon.

Oh, sorry. I thought you wanted advice on the extra cost too. For brunch, I like SHY's idea of "going to the bathroom" and making it known that you're paying. Good luck with this and I hope you all have a great time!