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Just Said Yes March 2025

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Maria, on March 10, 2021 at 9:01 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 11

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I joined WW because I’m actually a bridesmaid and I’m trying to help a friend with planning and ideas. Her wedding was supposed to be June of last year but it was postponed 1 year due to covid. We all bought dresses and accessories last year. Her colors are red and gold. My dress is red. Last year she told me that she wanted everyone in gold/champagne shoes. Naturally when I saw a pair I bought them. She never mentioned anything again. Now that we are approximately 3 months away she now says she wants everyone in black shoes. I’m really short on cash and have to really budget my money to get by. Would it be rude to ask her to help me find and pay for new shoes? I feel like it might be a tad on the rude side but I’m really strapped and now I have these gold shoes that I can’t return and will never wear. What would you do?

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Latest activity by Meghan, on March 10, 2021 at 12:46 PM

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Veronica · on March 10, 2021 at 9:08 AM
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I do would definitely speak with her about this issue. Try to calmly explain the situation and see what she says. Since she changed what shoes she wants you to wear she really should pay for new shoes. Also she might not realize that you don't already own black shoes.
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Michelle · on March 10, 2021 at 9:11 AM
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She should reimburse you for the gold shoes as was her original request. Or else return them yourself and get the money back. Be honest with her. Also take a look at Ross/Burlington/DSW but she needs to buy them.
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Maria · on March 10, 2021 at 9:11 AM
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Thanks. I’m really a big tomboy my shoe collection consists solely of sneakers and like 2 pairs of loafers for work. That’s all I’m working with. Last thing I wanna do is be rude and make her mad.
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Annika · on March 10, 2021 at 9:26 AM
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I’d speak to her about it. If you really need to invest in new shoes yourself I’d check out Lulus, ASOS and shops that pp mentioned. They often carry shoes at lower price points. I paid for my wedding shoes $33 at Lulus and they worked great and were of good quality.
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Katie · on March 10, 2021 at 9:59 AM
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Maybe worth checking the cost to dye them black ❤️
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Allie · on March 10, 2021 at 10:03 AM
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I agree with Veronica here! The bride definitely needs to reimburse you for the cost of the gold shoes. I hope the conversation goes well! You sound like a really thoughtful and nice person to come on here for advice on how to handle it
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Amanda · on March 10, 2021 at 10:04 AM
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You have no reason to feel bad! If she is asking for you to wear a specific color shoe that you don’t own, she has to pay for it. I’d ask if you can just wear your gold shoes that you already purchased or if she’d rather buy you a black pair. That’s 100% on her.
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Georgia · on March 10, 2021 at 10:54 AM
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She should pay you back for the gold shoes. If you only got them for her wedding, and now she's not requiring them and wanting a new color, it would only be polite for her to do so.
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Maria · on March 10, 2021 at 11:02 AM
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Thank you for helping out this tomboy at heart lol. I will look for some decent price shoes and when I find them I will ask her is she is willing to buy them for me. Wish me luck
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Veronica · on March 10, 2021 at 11:58 AM
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You're welcome! I know I own several pairs of black heels, but I'm also a girly girl. I had asked my girls to wear silver and I assumed most already had a pair of silver shoes, but several of them had or choose to buy new ones. If someone would've told me it would've been a problem I would've offered to buy them new shoes.
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Meghan · on March 10, 2021 at 12:46 PM
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Are the bridesmaid dresses long? If so, I would ask her if, since you are short on funds, can you just wear the gold shoes. If the dress is long, no one will even see them!
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