Laura
Rockstar November 2019

She wore a white dress

Laura, on November 10, 2019 at 10:55 AM Posted in Married Life 0 25
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My new mother in law wore a white dress (with a pattern of occasional black flowers) to our wedding yesterday.
For someone so concerned with etiquette, traditions and being proper, how could she not know this basic rule?!
i didn’t have time to be mad about it yesterday, but in the quiet as we wait for in the hotel for our boarding timer on our cruise, it’s bugging me. How dare she?
Everything else was near perfect, the temperature was perfect, we had only a couple no-shows. Flowers were perfect. I married the love if my life on a gorgeous beach in what the photographer described as perfect “gorgeous, perfect” light. My long divorced, hadn’t seen each other in almost 15 years parents, talked and got along. I couldn’t have asked for much more-except maybe less wind!



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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    😮 Who does that?! Shame on her. But thankfully it didn’t ruin your day and it sounds like you were able to ignore it and focus on the happiness of the day and you two (adorable pic!). Enjoy your cruise, Happy Honeymooners, and we’ll see you when you get back.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    She does that, apparently. They did give us a nice check; I guess everything has it’s price.
    Thanks, my friend managed to get me with my eyes open for once!
    On our way to the port now, then honeymoon time! This has been so last minute stressful and exhausting I NEED a week to relax!
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  • McKenzie
    Savvy November 2021
    McKenzie ·
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    She knew exactly what she was doing... some MIL are crazy.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Glad you can kinda laugh about it and shrug it off! Enjoy your fabulous cruise and being in wedded bliss. And relaaaaax. 💜
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Congratulations! I’m sorry your MIL did that. That’s just crazy but you didn’t let it ruin your day. Good for you.
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  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·
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    I know it's hard but don't let it bother you too much. I'm sure some of your wedding guests whispered about her and she made herself look bad. Just remember all the positives about your special day Smiley smile

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  • Cliodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Cliodhna ·
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    Im sorry that happened, Laura. Good for you not letting it ruin your daySmiley smile

    You looked beautiful! Congrats Smiley ring

    Enjoy your honeymoon!

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  • Sinéad
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2025
    Sinéad ·
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    You looked beautiful!

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  • AmyG
    Beginner November 2020
    AmyG ·
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    You looked beautiful, and all she did was make herself look foolish to everyone else. Ask your photographer or a friend to tint her dress a different color in Photoshop, if seeing the white dress bothers you in pictures. Enjoy your honeymoon!

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  • Janiya
    Super June 2020
    Janiya ·
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    Congratulations! I wish the both of you a long and happy marriage!

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  • Andrea
    VIP April 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Sorry to hear about what your mother in law did, but it looks like that didn't take away from your happy day. Congratulations, and I wish you have a happy life with your new husband! All the bestSmiley heart

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  • M.W.
    VIP June 2019
    M.W. ·
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    Congratulations on your special day! And I am sorry that your mother in law did that to you. I will never understand why people wear white to weddings.

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  • K
    Expert September 2020
    Ka-Rina ·
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    Congratulations on your wedding!!!!! In retrospect she made a spectacle of yourself and since you didn't make a scene - you are the classy gracious person...
    Do you have pictures of her and the dress???
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  • Sherry
    VIP September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    I never even knew this was a thing until this site. I personally wouldn't have cared as our wedding day was too perfect to be worried about someone else's clothing.

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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    Yup, think I’ve got one for sure.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    No, it’s not worth changing it. That’d let her know it bothered me and then she’d win. Ha.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I do, but I wouldn’t post pics of someone without their permission, which I am certainly not asking her for! If I could figure out how to crop it and just show the dress, I would.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    Well. How nice for you.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    They wear white to make a spectacle of themselves, as someone else said. To draw attention to them and away from the bride. It’s not so passive-aggressive nonsense.
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  • Laura
    Rockstar November 2019
    Laura ·
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    Thank you!
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