Shawl or no shawl

I think if it means that much to you and is something YOU want to do and want them to do then there is nothing wrong with that. Like you said, its only one hour. There are lots of adorable lace coverlets and boleros out there

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, no. You have plenty of time to breach the subject with your maids.

But is this some kind of requirement of catholicism?

I do not believe it is a requirement. Just thought it would look more respectful to not have so much skin showing during the ceremony.

I'm actively against religion, but if i were standing up there & a bride asked me to cover my shoulders, i would do it unhesitatingly.

@Janeen....in some devout churches, they do require women to have their shoulders covered as a show of modesty. Ours doesn't require it, but there is a part of the wedding information that we are given that "encourages" brides to take great in selecting the attire for their attendants and themselves.

I'm pretty sure that all the churches in Rome still require this, and it used to be (at least until somewhat recently) that shorts were not even allowed (for men or women) but I think that rule has been relaxed some.

Pashminas are beautiful. I have 2 and absolutely love them. You could have them monogrammed and include them as part of your gift to your BM

As for you, would the veil be enough coverage? If not, I would prefer something like a bolero or jacket, not just a pashmina, so that it won't slip off or need re-adjusting during the ceremony.