Sharing my wedding date w/ sister's birthday

Does she have a favorite food or different kind of dessert? Could it be a cupcake for just her with a candle? Or you have a midnight snack that's her favorite food?

My cousin got married on my birthday - and the whole place sang Happy Birthday to me! Totally not necessary and I'm not one to need attention on my birthday but I thought that was really fun!

That’s so sweet of her!! Maybe after the MOH and best man & your dad give speeches, you could take the mic before moving forward and say something like “we are also celebrating another very special person today, blah blah,” and then have everyone sign happy bday? If your sister handles embarrassment well, you could even make her wear a goofy hat or something like what a lot of restaurants do when they sing to customers? Also, if you bought a cupcake from somewhere and had it in a box to where it never left that box until it was in your sister’s hands, would your FH be safe if it wasn’t GF? Like have it completely boxed up and kept away from something else? Might be good to just do a small cupcake too since you’ll already have a cake (but there are some delicious GF cupcakes as well).

I agree with FutureMrs.D does she have a favorite dessert you could bring out for her? Or coordinate with your DJ to have a time to sing happy birthday to her?

Following this because we’re getting married on my bridesmaid’s birthday! We set our date before we even thought about our bridal party so it totally didn’t even occur to me that it was her birthday haha. She doesn’t mind at all though, but we were also trying to think of something special to do for her birthday. She hates being the center of attention so I think she’d kill me if we got everyone to sing happy birthday 😂 but we were also thinking of just adding it into our toast (we were going to make one anyway to thank our friends and our bridal party, so maybe just throw a “happy birthday” shoutout in there too)

But I’d love to hear some other people’s ideas on something nice to do for her!

View Quoted Comment I love that you and Chandy703 are having such good luck with having your wedding on one of your bride crew’s birthday!! That’s awesome that they are so supportive! We set our wedding a few days before my BFF’s and it completely ruined our friendship. I’m glad that other people have had better experiences!

But I’ve heard of brides giving their bouquets to important people in their lives instead of having a bouquet toss. I think that would be the sweetest thing to hand your “toss” bouquet to the birthday girl as everyone sings happy birthday! That would honor them in such a special way!

Get a cake from a different bakery and bring it. Don't make her eat gluten free. I understand not baking the cake in your kitchen if you aren't comfortable with how to properly clean and make you kitchen safe, or the kitchen where your cake is made in if you don't trust them but there should be no problems in getting a cake from somewhere else and cutting it for her at the wedding. Your FH just doesn't have to eat it. I've had celiac for over a decade and while the new gluten free trend surely makes it harder to eat out (yes I said harder - people don't take it seriously anymore) someone with celiac can certainly be around gluten, they just can't ingest it. I still bake regularly with wheat and even high gluten flour when cooking for others. It is just a matter of isolating tools, washings, etc and takes a lot of time that I understand others wouldn't want to do.

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Gen, we have the same situation! I did know it was her birthday before booking but she's one of my two best friends so I cleared it with her beforehand even though she wasn't officially a bridesmaid yet. She also hates being the center of attention so I think I'm just going to her bring her a birthday gift, separate from her bridesmaid gift, and give it to her in the getting ready area. I'm also thinking of bringing a small treat for us girls to share for her birthday earlier and/or have a little champagne while we sing happy birthday (she LOVES mimosas so I know she'll enjoy that). So I can make her feel special and show my appreciation for spending her entire birthday at my wedding but also not embarrass her!

Thanks for the thoughts everyone. I love the idea of having everyone sing happy birthday! Unfortunately our venue does not allow outside food (they even require that we use them for snacks while getting dressed) so I would have to sneak her a cupcake (possible). I think handing her the bouquet while everyone sings would be a lot of fun and she would be embarrassed but not mad about it (fingers crossed ).