Sharing a bathroom with SO

I used to be this way. Now idgaf. He's stuck with me the rest of his life. And my parents always say how much I smell and mock me. It's a fact of life at this point. I'm sure it doesn't bother him lol he probably finds it funny. My FH does

I won't be around pooping or let him see me do that but I've given up on shutting the door when I pee. I don't know what that says about me lol. Fortunately our bathroom is kind of in the corner out of the way anyways. FH's family can be quite stinky but they keep some long matches in the bathroom. Lighting a wood match and then blowing it out really does wonders, more so than candles.

You can also buy this specialty spray called poo-pourri

Other way around with us. He literally locks the bathroom door lol.

Try Poo Pourri. You spray it on the surface of the water before you go and it contains the smell.

https://www.bedbathandbeyond.ca/store/product/poo-pourri-reg-before-you-go-reg-toilet-spray/223605?mcid=PS_google_nonbrand_dsa_&adpos=1t2&creative=163937244383&device=c&matchtype=b&network=g&gclid=CLWRjJr3xdQCFVFffgodp98BKA

I'm not embarrassed about my bodily functions. Everybody poops. I'm not picking on you, but I cannot understand how people can get all worked up about it. FH is like that--he apparently didn't poop at my house for *months* when we started dating. I mean, it's a totally normal thing to do. You would literally die if you didn't poop.

If the smell bothers you, you can get Poo~Pourri. I've heard it's quite effective.

Lol I just DGAF anymore. I don't even bother to shut the door unless I'm changing my tampon.

If it bothers you that much, try that V.I.Poo spray I keep seeing advertised on TV. Also, you do know that the bathroom fan isn't to get rid of smell right? It's to gather moisture from the shower.

IDGAF. I do hide the squatty potty, which FH thinks is gross.

You might try poo-pourri or something if it bothers you or keep matches in the bathroom to light after you go (the smell of the match overpowers a LOT).

FH and I just kind of do our thing though - we both have some intestinal issues, so we can't approach it like a big deal (sorry for the TMI)

FH was and still kinda is private when he uses the bathroom & asks that I do the same. However if I close the door (not all the way) my dog somehow finds his way.

Have you tried talking to a therapist about this?

Or a doctor regarding the odor?

We don't have poop problems lol. At the beginning of our relationship, his master bedroom in his apartment had the bathroom connected with no door. So I definitely had to get used to that which led me to not give a fuck. We're VERY open about our bodily functions. Probably too open, but that's just us.

Warning TMI Alert!!

I'm a big stinker. Actually I have Intestinal issues that cause this big stink. We both think this is funny. Actually hilarious. We only have 1 bathroom and when it was being renovated my FH actually saw me crap my pants and the finish in a bucket. We don't even have a bathroom door. It's more like a warning of "Do not go upstairs!!!" We didn't even have a fan in the bathroom until after renovation. I realize this would embarrass you. My advice-pretend it doesn't. Also-look into poo-pourri. You spray it in the water before you go. Works wonders. Not even kidding. I used it at work. I also use it at my FH family's house. If it works for diseased colon stench it should definitely work for normal stench. Good Luck!!!

Have you heard of poo-pouri? I don't have it but seriously, it seems amazing and a vacation rental I stayed at once had it. My fiance used it and I went in to a bathroom that smells AMAZING right after him. And I have to run out if I go in unaware at home. Lol. This could solve all of your problems. You just spray it in the bowl before yoj do your business and the fragrant oils form a layer on top of the water so fumes can't get out. When you flush, you'll smell the oil getting kicked up. Please report back! Haha

@kittyprawn she doesn't need a therapist... it's normal to be shy or uncomfortable with this. My fh and I think it's very unsexual to mention it, and do our best to hide it. It's totally normal to have occasional smelliness. But I agree if it's too often, maybe you should talk to your doctor?

Some people with disagree with me and think it's stupid that we are conscientious about our bathroom habits, but it kinda helps when keeping a romance. Yes, I know things happen, but just trying to keep it private is a good thing for relationships, imo.

Hmmm I don't remember when I became comfortable with it. I used to care a lot and never went when he was around.

I think living together really helped us get comfortable although it was never a problem with him.

We also only have one bathroom so there's nothing we can do about it

I started announcing it so he knew what to expect LOL.

"K, I'm going to go poo now"

Time also helps. We've been together for almost 10 years now, and living together for 2 years.

You can be as private as you want. Someday, you are 100% going to have an emergency where someone is in the shower while the other person is pooping.

I had my gallbladder removed about 8 years ago so any shyness with #2 went out the window after that. FH has learned very quickly that if we are driving and I say to stop, he better do it immediately. He's also learned that I often can't make it through meals without having to "checking my Facebook" as his cousin likes to call it. I feel like if you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you have to eventually get used to all parts of the relationship, even the stinky parts.

I absolutely swear by this in my house!

@Laura D,

I used to feel this way about passing gas and pooping around him. I would run in the other room and try my best to stifle the noise. One day, it was so loud...like loud...

He quickly laughed and told me he heard it! After that, I said fuck it and didn't hide them anymore. My FH is also a silly weirdo and loves to bother me doing bathroom time. He would burst in the bathroom, during #2 time, and just stare at me or start a conversation! He did it even more once we moved in together. Now, I lock the door

He doesn't want to smell what I'm cooking in that toilet. Hell, there are times I don't want to smell it lol.

How about you try out this VIPoo jazz? I'm pretty sure it's at Walmart and doesn't cost that much.

I'm sending you good vibes with the stinky smell jazz!

We're 13 years into our relationship, living together for 6. We DGAF and actually make fun of each other when its smelly. I don't see how you can live with someone and hide something that we as humans have to do to survive. Everybody poops! The sooner you can work through this self consciousness, the better off your home life will be.