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Savvy October 2019

Share your surprising and funny family requests

NCB2019, on September 3, 2019 at 10:28 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 27
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I’m getting married in my current city and my family and my FH’s family are traveling about 8 hours for our wedding. Room blocks were made available a year ago and our guests have had more than enough time to prepare and make arrangements if they want to/are able to come. Anyway, my cousin called me last night and asked if she and her boyfriend could stay at my house the weekend of my wedding. LOL. I honestly was shocked and didn’t even know how to respond to explain to her that 1. No and 2. We are spending our wedding night by ourselves so again, no.

I can’t help but laugh at the thought of hosting family at my house on our wedding night or in the days to follow before we leave for our honeymoon. Everyone else got hotel rooms with no second thought.


Do any of you have any funny stories from guests or family members who just don’t “get it” or don’t have guest etiquette? I’d love to hear them!

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Latest activity by Renay, on October 24, 2019 at 12:03 PM
  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    FMIL doesn’t understand that it’s time to send invitations out (dropped them at the post office this morning!), and she needs to get the stupid addresses of the people she’s insisting we need to invite but who will surely not come. You know, but they might give us gifts because FILs gave THEIR kids wedding gifts. It sounds impossibly gift grabby to me but I guess I’m allowing it. But get me the darn addresses already! FH has been asking for three months.
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  • Izzykern
    Super April 2021
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    One of my FMIL said that engagement pictures are super unnecessary as well as hiring a professional photographer..... (if only she knew just how much I am willing to spend on a fantastic photographer 😂)
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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    Well I had to change my venue and start from scratch because the venue I wanted was 3 hours away and I got SO much pushback from family over the drive! We found something in town but it ‘s definitely not my dream venue.
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  • NCB2019
    Savvy October 2019
    NCB2019 ·
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    My future MIL was like that too! Good luck!
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  • S
    Expert October 2019
    Sara ·
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    Omg 😂 we had a family friend who I was originally on the fence about inviting request the premium liquor package.. 🙄 did not help his case for getting an invite.
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  • Susan
    Devoted October 2021
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    My dad told me several weeks ago that he had absolutely, positively zero interest in walking me down the aisle. I've been married once before, and he did it the first time and someone else could do it this go-round. So, no problem, I decided my 10 year old daughter and I would walk together. This was all fine till she caught wind of the fact that my 10 year old niece had appointed herself flower girl. My daughter exudes certain...shall we say...leadership traits that would be enviable in a third world dictatorship? So she made it quite clear that she isn't walking me down the aisle, she is HEAD flower girl and is going to make darned sure everyone performs their jobs PERFECTLY. So I was telling this to my dad and kind of laughing about walking myself down the aisle, which I was perfectly prepared to do as a modern, independent female, when he says, "Well, I'm walking you down the aisle! Why wouldn't you want me to do it?" He was practically insulted I hadn't decided he was doing it in the first place. Needless to say, his memory isn't what it was. So now he's walking me down the aisle proudly . Till next week when he forgets again. Smiley laugh

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  • Emily
    Dedicated October 2021
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    OMG your daughter is hilarious! You can't help but giggle at that! My daughter would do the same thing! Smiley xd

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  • Alejandra
    Super November 2021
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    Wow. Thats hilarious actually Smiley xd did he get invited in the end?

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  • Deb
    Dedicated October 2018
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    After the reception we stayed at the hotel bar for a while with friends. When we were going up to our room the best man asked my husband to stick around for a few drinks. My husband said no it’s my wedding night. The best man couldn’t understand why I couldn’t wait an hours or two for him to come up.

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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
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    FMIL added stuff to our ceremony. To preface, they are of jewish descent and not just any jews but the priests. She wants some of the traditional jewish elements. Now, to be clear, the request itself was not the issue. Its the timing. After we already approved the ceremony timeline and had all manner of discussions about it with our officiant, which she already knew. we still have enough time to add in the few things she wants without serious issues but making the request over a month after we told her we finalized our ceremony outline was just annoying.

    we might be hosting family at our house the week of our wedding and if they stay the night of our wedding, it matters not since we will be at the hotel (however, it is my parents whom I feel I can trust in my home without me) and we are taking them to the airport the day after so that we know they wont be there while we are gone on the honeymoon. I guess it doesnt seem that far fetched to me but everyone is different and it sounds like your cousin is just being cheap or lazy.

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  • NCB2019
    Savvy October 2019
    NCB2019 ·
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    My parents are staying the days before our wedding, which is fine because I'll need my mom's help. However, the morning of our wedding, my parents are checking into a hotel. My FH and I live right down the street from our reception venue, so we're staying at our house for our wedding night. We're having everyone back over to our house for a Sunday morning brunch but I certainly don't want to host any company the night before...

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  • NCB2019
    Savvy October 2019
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    OMG Deb! That's so irritating!

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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
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    It goes back to every situation is different. I suppose my point in explaining my own situation was to say that there was no harm in her asking as long as she respects the answers. Just perspective is all. Smiley smile

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  • Liza
    Dedicated September 2021
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    My mom requested no purple or colored icing. My wedding color is lavender and my mom made it clear she was extremely against a cake or cupcakes with any amount of purple icing. She thinks it would make the food unappetizing and told me "people won't want to eat something purple". I have no problem accommodating her but I thought it was funny she felt that strongly about colored icing!

    She also had a plastic banner made for our engagement party and it was really nice and went well with the party's theme, but she later told me she was saving it for the wedding. I couldn't believe it! I am an event planner by profession and she knows how seriously I take decor and themes. I do not want a banner that is completely different from the other reception decorations. I also do not think a banner is appropriate for a wedding in general.... That is one argument my mom will not win. Sorry mom! ha!

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  • Brooke
    Beginner July 2020
    Brooke ·
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    I've only just booked the venue and my mom won't stop asking me about the rehearsal dinner that she's planning........which will be in a year from now......

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  • Jennifer
    Beginner November 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    These situations are so frustrating! I think its crazy how many people make a wedding about themselves.

    My fiance and I are inviting all of our first cousins, despite not having seen some of them in years. I have two cousins I haven't seen in over a decade and they are unmarried. They caused a scene about not getting a "plus one" and threatened a "family rift" over the situation (none of the other un-married cousins have a plus one) I'm really frustrated over the situation but my parents are upset and it doesn't seem like a battle worth fighting.

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    That is pretty funny to me... umm no we don't want you at our house on our wedding night! Hello we're newlyweds and want to spend the time together, by ourselves!! haha. Some people just don't get it. What did she say when you said no?!

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  • kymarmck
    Super March 2020
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    We're about 5 months out and just sent out STDs in August. We're only inviting one of my dad's siblings since none of the other siblings were part of my life growing up.

    One day my dad and I were talking and he mentioned how my uncle was proudly talking to one of his other siblings about the wedding and said sibling said "oh yeah! We plan on flying in for the wedding - booking our flights soon!" (despite the fact that they have not received a STD or any communication about the wedding what-so-ever).

    So that ended up adding 6 people to our guest list because I have a guilt complex that I'm working on and didn't want to have to confront my dads siblings about why they weren't invited so I ended up inviting the ones I vaguely know about lol.

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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
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    Don't blame you. I probably would've done the same thing!

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  • Ruby
    Dedicated October 2019
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    My FMIL was appalled & called us names when we told her she didn't need to have her phone at the wedding. Apparently the 5k I'm shelling out for photography & videography isn't as good as her 2010 phone because she "needs something to post"

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