Sexy Bride’s Dance

The reason people criticize sexy bride dances is because they're often done in front of the parents, in laws, grannies. The bride is the main focus, as a matter of etiquette, the guests are supposed to watch.


If you're ok with that, go for it.

There’s a time and a place to do sexy dances for your partner. In front of your friends and family isn’t the time nor the place. If your guests’ comfort is any kind of factor for you, save it for the honeymoon.

I would certainly not like to watch 😬

Upping the "royal core/princess" theme of your desired wedding (from your previous post) does not mesh with a sexy dance. God forbid, I could not fathom Diana or Kate Middleton doing such a thing! This dance should be reserved for an intimate evening with your husband on your honeymoon, or thereafter, but not for an audience. As a guest I would be very uncomfortable.

How ‘sexy’ is the dance? And how long is the routine? Also, will kids be attending? You have to consider your audience. If it’s something that’s ‘too sexy’ I’d reconsider however, you also have to be comfortable. Do what you think is best.

Your wedding is “your day”, but once you invite guests to attend, their comfort must also be taken into consideration. As a guest, I would definitely not feel comfortable watching a bride (or groom) perform a sexy dance. There is a time and place for sexy dances (in private, at certain clubs), but a wedding reception is not one of them.

I’m not mad at this at all and as I former dancer I think there is a way to do it where it’s tasteful. I’m doing something similar but it’s more along the lines of chair work and not floor based choreography. Very sexy but highly tasteful. Good luck with this.

I agree with PP that the reception, with friends and family in attendance, is not really the appropriate time and place for a sexy dance. People honestly don't even do a whole song for the 1st dance and parent/child dances. It's probably about a minute before the DJ fades out the song and the dance ends. As a guest, I'd quite honestly be confused why the bride was doing an intricate choreographed sexy dance in front of everyone. I would maybe save it for when you two are in private. It may be a fun surprise on the honeymoon!

I’ve never been to a wedding where the bride performed a solo dance. “Sexy” or not, I’d think the whole experience was weird.
I’d save it for another time.

So I think maybe “sexy” is like an umbrella term for a lot of dance styles… I’ll link a dance style that is similar to my own dance style. As for why choreographed? My entire family and friend group consists of dancers so it’d be a bit weird to NOT dance and just sway for my wedding.

https://youtu.be/5eBBdBEbbXQ

Definitely not as good of a dancer as Jojo but I dance in this style and that’s basically the style that I’m going for. IMO, it’s more femme than “sexy”. But let me know

View Quoted Comment I awed by their talent but I would not feel comfortable watching that as a guest and I would probably take that as a cue for a restroom or cigarette break. Considering that I don’t shock or offend easily. I also feel squicky watching the Magic Mike-esque groomsman dances on YouTube which are filmed from real receptions. Save the dance for your honeymoon.

View Quoted Comment How about you and your future spouse choreograph your first dance? I've seen elaborate 1st dances, which have always been entertaining. I just feel like the solo dance (or bridesmaid/groomsmen dances) at a wedding reception is a bit odd. Like..its a wedding and not a dance showcase. While the dance is cool, it just doesn't really fit at a wedding. Is this common at weddings in your social circle?

View Quoted Comment Totally agree with this. I don’t even think the fact that it’s sexy is the issue (although, that does add a lot of discomfort); it’s just more that a choreographed dance feels incredibly odd and out of place at a wedding. It’s great that you are a dancer, but I just don’t see how that pertains to your wedding. Like, my fiancé is an accountant, but he’s not going to whip out a calculator and have everyone watch him do their taxes during our reception 😆 Everybody has talents, but those don’t need to be showcased during a wedding. But not putting on a performance also doesn’t mean that you just have to “sway” at your reception! If you and your friends/family consist of mainly dancers, then I am sure everyone is going to be killing it on the dance floor during your reception!

I watch a ton of Jojo Gomez videos, but her style is super sexual and I would be really uncomfortable watching that at wedding. she is 100% about body positivity and I am sure would encourage a bride who wants to dance this style, to go ahead and do so. So thats probably an opinion towards doing the dance.

I did see a video online of the bride and bridesmaids doing the Galen Hooks River choreography, and it wasn't so overtly sexual. Maybe if your unsure, tone it down a few notches like they did.

A wedding with mostly dancers...this might go over great. Its so hard to judge other peoples family and friends comfort. Would my family and friends be okay with it? No

Nothing is wrong with but some brides have took it way to far. With see thru under garments and putting there rears all up in his face. That I've seen plus I don't want to disrespect my family nor his.But I want to do for him but I don't know if my body once I heal from an injury will come together. But I will pray on it and continue the healing process

I think guests would be really uncomfortable. Do you think your grandparents and the older relatives would feel comfortable watching? I would keep in mind the audience and how they would feel.

Okay, coming in hot with a different take here...

So sometimes at weddings, people hire entertainment in the form of dancers - I don't see how this is any different? Only difference being you're the one who will be part of the dancing! I think that because dance and choreography is such a central part of your and your family's life, it makes sense and there's a way to make it fun and entertaining for everyone! I think where it potentially gets sticky is with the "sexy" part - I think you could totally be sexy in your dance without maybe some of the floor work or just making certain choreographic choices that don't cross the boundary... I know this video has made its rounds on the internet, and it's not exactly in the style that you said you choreograph, but I thought that the overall choreography of the dance (particularly the second song) was tasteful.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oj-abXIaDpk

I only have two notes: (1) I wouldn't make it very long because I could see it dragging out as a guest and also your FH could feel weird sitting alone watching for a long time, and (2) not sure whether you'll be dancing with others or just by yourself, and the only cringy thing about this video above to me is all the other dancers dressed pretty sexy - I guess they're probably just backup dancers, but when I first watched it years ago I wondered if they were the bride's friends and thought that could be kind of weird to have your husband also watching them?

Anyhow, I think it could be a fun thing to do and there are certainly ways to make it tasteful yet still feel sexy.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly my thoughts, I have no issues with "sexy" but I have never seen a bride (or groom) dance alone at a wedding and it would feel incredibly uncomfortable and cringey to me as a guest. That said, a (tasteful) sexy choreographed dance with your partner? I'd be in awe, impressed, and not at all uncomfortable.

Ok so yeah the choreo is cool, and if your guests came willingly to watch a show then great. Problem here is you have a captive audience, so to speak, because they’re all gathered for a different reason. In that case, it comes across to me as kind of attention seeking.