Sexually Excited

This sounds like something you should discuss with your doctor. It could be a simple hormone imbalance that could be easily solved.

I agree with the previous post, talk to your doctor. I literally can’t get enough of my man and I’m 48.

Have you guys been arguing a lot lately (totes normal) or been under a lot of change or stress? Sometimes external factors could be to blame too

I am veryyyy sexually attracted to my FH.

Maybe like everyone said- Talk to your doctor. See what's going on.

There are days that I’m not attracted to FH because he’s being a jerk, or just generally annoying me. Or I’m just not interested in sex that day. Other days it’s all I can do to wait til he gets home. I think it’s natural to have ebbs and flows in your sex life.

You can talk to your doctor if you think your decreased sex drive is hormonal. However, not being in the mood is perfectly normal in most instances. Relationships typically have spikes and dips of sexual activity as they progress. If you and your partner feel this is to the point where there is some concern, then a doctor to rule out hormonal imbalance and/or a sex therapist to get you two more synced are two options to look into.

Also, biologically, women tend to have higher sex drives in their early-mid 20s and then again when they begin menopause. Testosterone is a major player in the libido. I don't know how old you are, but if you are 30 and comparing yourself to when you were 22, then that may be a reason for the difference.

Yea, we both have jobs that are physically and mentally draining sometimes we just don't feel like it, both of us.
Sex drives change with your age, with your menstrual cycle, with your overall physical and mental health, it's natural to have various feelings over time. If you feel consistently unattracted then there's something deeper going on, and more often than not it's something like stress. You can try a couple's get away for the weekend and relax and see what happens, if it doesn't go well then worry, if it does go well you clearly need more relaxing and one on one time.

Well we was on the edge of breaking up due to his drinking but he has gotten better but i still dont feel 100% attracted how i was at first

I think it's normal to have feelings of not wanting to have sex at certain times, especially if you're arguing or under stress (like planning a wedding). If these feelings continue I would def talk to a dr or possibly a therapist.

View Quoted Comment Have you two tried couple's counseling? Addiction can have a drastic effect on a relationship.

View Quoted Comment I think counseling would be a good thing. Drinking can cause a lot of problems in a relationship and having a professional there to navigate it with both of you might be really helpful

This does not happen often at all for us and we're old (nearing 40...I know that's not so old) and have been together forever. There are days where we are too stressed/tired/whatever...but it's never that we aren't attracted to each other. It's just that life happens.

He say what is the difference intalking to a person with a degree in a regular person

View Quoted Comment This is your real problem, not your sexual attraction to your partner. NOTHING in a relationship can be average/ordinary/normal when there is an actively using addict in the relationship. If he’s still drinking, then it’s going to continue to hurt your relationship. Even if he’s not currently drinking but has failed to seek treatment or AA, you will continue to have problems. Good luck.

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Ditto! Talk with your doctor about this

I feel this way. I do truly believe it is directly related to my birth control. Almost all birth controls decrease your sex drive, and some other meds you may be on. I’m trying to see if I can switch birth controls after doing research in nursing school the Nuva Ring does not affect sex drive supposedly.

View Quoted Comment Thanks On The Luck I Was Omw Out The Door Last Month And He Said He Would do better so now he do beer doing the week and liquor on weekends although he said he would only drink ocasionally but the liquor just make him fall asleep smh like yesterday we was suppose to move but we didnt due to the company but he like i need a drink he get beer and liquor i just dont know what to do he a good person but i just feel like im falling out of love and we have a daughter together

View Quoted Comment You know what to do, you just don't want to do it. Which is understandable because it's difficult. Stay strong, set your resolve.
Addicts cannot simple do less/be a bit better. It's all or nothing. He will very quickly decline back into heavy drinking in no time.
I highly suggest you discuss with your counselor and husband that you aren't happy or in love anymore and want to end the relationship.
It's important to remember that even if he recovered and put in all the effort (which it sounds like he won't but even if he did) that sometimes there's no salvaging a relationship. He could recover and work on things and in the end you can still be left feeling out of love with this person. Especially because this person is going to be different from the man you met and fell in love with- recovery or not.

Also, you need to think of your daughter!!! Is this healthy for her? What lessons is she learning from him and you? His addiction and your unhappiness is going to affect her, if it hasn't already.

Best of luck and well wishes, Jelisa.

View Quoted Comment It honestly hurt that i feel this way its like im happy 1 min and be planning a wedding but i dont know what is best for me than he ask me why do he have to basically beg for sex i be in the mood sometimes but not like him i just wanted a family but i think we have somethings to work out cause marriage will not solve our promblem i stopped going over his mom house cause she a heavy drinker and she gets rude and i cant deal with that honestly i smoke weed so i dont like to sound like a phony person but me smoking do not affect our relasionship my spouse only say it do when i speak of him drinkin

View Quoted Comment Sorry I somehow thought you were already married! Got confused. You are right 100%, getting married won't fix anything. Definitely counseling will help- individual for both and couples.
That's gaslighting and false equivalency all in one. I won't go into all of why because I started to and it got really long. In short, his addiction is his own and he needs to deal with it. If not, he risks and likely will lose you romantically and your child being with him.