Sex. Waiting til we're married, who else andhow's it going?!

It's amazing that you were both able to abstain.

I personally believe in sex before marriage, to me it plays an important role in a relationship and I'm not quite sure I could bring myself to marry someone without knowing how things feel on that very intimate level.

I think this is very admirable, though I do have a question to the ladies who are waiting or abstaining for a certain amount of time before their weddings (hopefully this doesn't come off as ignorant), what is your definition of sex?

Lara- For my and my fiance we do not do anything physically intimate besides kiss. Even making out is a rare moment for us..

Good question Lara P. Well I bet there is more than one answer to this one, but I'll share my definition and that's simply it mine, can't speak for anyone else. We're all adults here (I hope) but I'm gonna keep this as clean and appropriate as possible..... Well of course actual intercourse is sex, but oral is off limits as well, or any act that will lead to a climax. Those are out limits, but I must say without getting to spiritual here (not that there is anything at all wrong with being spiritual, cuz I am and thankful for it) but cuz the audience I'm sure is varied in beliefs. We let our spiritual conscious (the Holy Spirit) guide us so I have learned where to draw the line cuz I feel certain way...uh guilty if we get a little to touchy feely

Shamaybecakes and MrsMoBright, I really appreciate the insight. I've personally known a bunch of people who looked down on me in college for not waiting, but they were orgasming all over the place via oral sex, so I just wanted to make sure.

Growing up I always wanted to wait until marriage :-/ 2 kids later and we're still not married - yet! That is awesome MrsMoBright

To answer Laura's question, for me we define sex as oral or actual sex. We don't do much more than kissing and holding hands and hugging most the time though. However I know everyone will have their own definition of sex and intimacy.

We are waiting. We have 2 kids together from when we were first together. We separated for about 2 yrs and since we have been back together decided to wait until marriage this time. I think it has done amazing things for our relationship.

Yes! FH and I are both virgins, got advice from our youth pastor and his wife gave us, was to make me (or the woman) feel more comfortable, because men are like microwaves (doesnt take much to get heated up) and women are like crockpots lol

I'm nervous cause I know it will hurt and be messy but I am pretty excited

We've waited over two years, MrsMo! We met through Christian Mingle and one of the first things he said to me was, "God told me to do nothing that would dishonor you, Him, or myself." So, since that first 'hello' on April 5, 2013, I have been courted by the most honorable man I've ever known. Second marriages for us both, and we look like the Brady Bunch when we're with all our children! We're excited for the wedding night, too!! We're not worried about "compatibility" either...when you love the "person", ultimately everything works out. Double bonus...he's a pastor! lol Blessings to you both!!

Wow Jess B that is beautiful! I admire you both. Hey look our exciting day is the same! I wish you all the very best, have a wonderful wedding day and NIGHT

I think it is great that you are sticking with your convictions and beliefs. Best wishes.

My fiance and I have been together for years, we have had sex before, however about 3 years ago when we started getting serious about getting married and went to marriage counseling we (I initially and then he eventually he also obliged) decided to wait until we get married. In the beginning it was a challenge however I now understand that sex is a gift from God for a husband and a wife and i think it will be so very worth it once we do get married. I have also learned during this time that our relationship has absolutely nothing to do with sex and we enjoy each other very much and have a good friendship. So i am very excited about experiencing sex as an expression of our love and commitment once we are married.

Me and my fiancé have waited almost 7 years (how long we have been together). Our wedding is next year in October

So happy for you Maria C. We met on Christian Mingle too! It was on July 19 2013, his bday and I had had to preach at a service that night, it didn't go well, one of the toughest times preaching I had ever experienced but when I got home I got on the site just to get my mind off my experience. He was on line and we had out first phone call that night. It was wonderful, we laughed and talked til I felt comfortable enough to share my experience with him. He listened and encouraged me in such a kind and gentle way, I honestly feel like I fell in love with him that very night. I knew I didn't want to ever let him go. I believe God brought us together and I'm so thankful. Waiting of course has it's challenges for both of us but we are both committed in this to God and that makes the difference. I pray that you and all the WW ladies have a wonderful wedding day and night!

Yes, we have. Dating was difficult, but being engaged is even harder! Thankful for accountability, that's for sure!

View Quoted Comment That’s a great answer!! So glad we’re nit alone

My FH and I are also waiting. It is VERY hard sometimes, but we know that we will be able to share that special moment together that night and it will all be worth it. AND all of those saying the chemistry might not be there..I think you can tell chemistry in other ways and when you are truly in love it’s there. It’ll be so special regardless of whether or not it’s just perfect the first few times.