My cousin has a service dog - a big service dog - who goes most places with her. He is trained and everything, but I'm super stressed. She is dedicated to coming to the wedding, but explained to me that the likelihood is he will need to come, and she wanted me to be aware.
Basically if I'm honest with myself, I do not want a dog at my wedding. That's the bottom line. I did not express that to her because I was trying to be understanding (and I do trust she is a responsible dog owner). I asked her questions about whether he would bark (he's not a barker), where he is supposed to eat (apparently under the reception table, and apparently I'm supposed to let her feed her meal to the dog...), how she would handle certain situations, etc. She expressed she would never bring him if he would mess up the day, she knows how important this is.
Telling her the dog can't come is tantamount to telling her she can't come. And maybe that's how it has to be. Anyone been to a wedding with a service dog? What do I do? Should I give her specific instructions (i.e. he needs to eat outside) or tell her the dog can't come??
