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Seriously???

Jacqueline, on February 7, 2020 at 5:15 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 9

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Here goes.... I’ve asked my 4 ladies for my bridal party and FH has asked his men. He gets a call last week from one of my BM asking if FH could make room for her hubby to be in our wedding. I don’t have another BM I care to ask be in my wedding to offset one more groomsmen. I had thoughts of asking him to walk me down the aisle but.... my gut is telling me no. Isn’t it tacky/weird to call and ask that your husband be a part of the wedding party “unbeknownst” to him. I’m just getting mixed vibes about it. She is a good friend of mine but went to FH and asked him. I personally don’t feel obligated to have him in the wedding party and feel it was not appropriate for her to even think to ask about her husband being included. I suppose we can have him escort guests to their seats??

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Latest activity by Meghan, on February 7, 2020 at 11:05 PM

VIP October 2020
Samantha · on February 7, 2020 at 5:22 PM
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You should not feel pressured to oblige her request in any capacity. That was totally inappropriate and if my fiancé did that to try to get me into a bridal party, I would be mortified. I would not find a place for her partner unless you or your FS specifically want them to participate in a greater capacity.
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Amanda · on February 7, 2020 at 5:27 PM
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I agree. Totally inappropriate. It's your wedding party and YOU get to pick who is in it. I personally would not be very happy that she did that. Two out of my three bridesmaids are married and neither of their husband's will in our wedding even if they are our friends too.
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Super March 2020
Jennifer · on February 7, 2020 at 5:27 PM
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That is odd. Does the husband know his wife is requesting this? Kind of makes me think something bigger is going on.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on February 7, 2020 at 5:31 PM
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Oh that's weird. Don't be obligated to fulfill that ridiculous request
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Master September 2019
Sherry · on February 7, 2020 at 5:57 PM
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Yes, it is tacky and very inappropriate for her to ask that.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on February 7, 2020 at 6:24 PM
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Tacky! I would let her know that you really want to keep the party on both sides close friends and family. You have love for her husband but would rather keep the parties as they are.
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Master May 2021
Cristy · on February 7, 2020 at 7:01 PM
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Rude!! Wow. That is so inappropriate! You have no obligation to entertain this in any way.
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Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on February 7, 2020 at 9:18 PM
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Totally inappropriate on her part! The wedding part is for the couple to choose their closest friends. If your FH doesn’t feel comfy replying, you can tell her “no, my fiancé is choosing his close friends.”
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Master October 2019
Meghan · on February 7, 2020 at 11:05 PM
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That is tacky, rude, and inappropriate! The answer to him should be “sorry, we’ve already selected our wedding party members. But we are excited to celebrate with you at the wedding”. If he doesn’t like that, he doesn’t have to come!
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