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Mandi
Master October 2020

Sequel Wedding Guest List - Can we change it from the original?

Mandi, on July 6, 2020 at 2:20 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
As we get closer to our second wedding, I have a ton of questions.



Who do we invite (again), and who can we cut?
Let's be honest. We invited some people because they were family and we had to. We knew they wouldn't show. But they sent us a gift and a regret and we sent a thank you.
Should we reinvite these people?
Because honestly, I don't want them changing their mind and deciding to come now. I want to make the list smaller, not potentially larger. But then I have to ask if it's rude to no longer invite them?
Im just... ready to do this.

6 Comments

Latest activity by Jasmine, on July 6, 2020 at 10:16 AM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I mean, you can invite whomever you want.

    But, is this a reschedule or a vow renewal?

    If it's a reschedule, there is a *little* bit of leniency, nowadays, as you may be going for something much smaller... but you do need to make that very clear to people who were originally invited, and been told you postponed.

    If it's a vow renewal... you invite who is close to you, now.

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  • Erin
    Expert August 2020
    Erin ·
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    I wouldn’t. I’d they declined once, I’d look at that as their answer. With everything going on with COVID, they should understand. It’s your wedding, do what you want.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    I would actually re-invite them...there may have just been a date conflict with the original date, and considering they sent a gift, shows enough sentiment that they care.

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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    Girl we are in the same boat. I had some relatives that responded and sent a wedding gift back in April for our original date. We are also trying to cut our guest list, but in my opinion if they sent a gift, or RSVP’d yes the last time, I think you should re-invite them. Or somehow let people know you had to alter your guest list due to everything going on. I’m sure they will be understanding if you tell them ahead of time.
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  • Kelly
    Savvy September 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Wow you got a gift along with your regrets, that’s very nice of them. All I got was a no and that was that. I would say if you are trying to cut down the list I would communicate that to all of the guests from the original list and then invite who you want. Due to what is going on they should understand. You could even create an A and B list and if you get rsvps from the A list and it doesn’t seem to be as much as you were hoping then invite some from the B list.
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    I honestly wouldn't bother. If they feel some type of way, just let them know you wanted it small this time and with the restrictions, you were unable to accommodate.
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