September Wedding

I am still planning on having my September 19, 2020 with 80 people. I just ordered invitations and will send them out in a few weeks. This is my second time postponing (from April 4, 2020) and at this point, I think that we will be okay with less than 100. I'll be getting married on July 18, 2020 since I am so disappointed that our marriage had to be "postponed".

My bff is still planning on having her wedding that date too and she has to have a minimum of 100 for her venue

View Quoted Comment Ok great! Thank you. Just needed to hear it from other brides

It depends where you are, I'm sorry.

Are you in NY/NJ/CT/MA? You might get 50 guests, with precautions.

Are you in CA? ....Maybe? Likely 50, again.

A state that's spiking? (FL, AL, IA, MO, etc.) ...Probably not.

A state where there were barely any cases? (MT, WY, ME) There's a stronger chance, but likely with precautions.

Your best bet is to stay in contact with your venue, and keep an eye on your local health officials.

All you can do is watch, listen and research where you are planning to have your wedding. There are many states reopening and plan to be in Phase 3 by the end of June, Mid-July. There are many states still in limbo. All you can do is research and listen to the officials and your venue, be prepared to downsize if needed.

View Quoted Comment Are you still having yours?!! We moved our June 6 to sept 12...80 invited- hoping list will go down...

View Quoted Comment Hi Nicole,


Agh, I understand. Well, unfortunately, ours is planned for Miami Beach and it's a destination. We half committed to the idea that if we get 50 RSVPS yes for the reception, we will go ahead and proceed. If we do not, then we will likely move to Fall 2021 and hope vendors don't go out of business. ..🙈 Over a year and a half from our original plannwd wedding date of April 4, 2020. We will be getting married this Saturday still because we are so sad with how September is looking. Good luck! Where is your wedding?
Michelle

View Quoted Comment Yes we are still having ours and we cut the list down to 100 but there are some people from out of state who can’t go so ours will probably be 70-80.

View Quoted Comment Ooh okay! Our first original was destination and I thought this all would have been easier but I see you’re hitting the same walls ugh I’m so sorry!! Ours is in Harrisburg, PA in a historical mansion soo partially outside and then spread out in varied rooms sooo easy to socially distance...it’s just so many people have been “insinuating” and making such comments that I should re consider and postpone but because it’s smaller already I don’t wanna do that again! Ah there’s no good answer! I appreciate your view though- makes me feel less crazy like people are making me out to be lol!

View Quoted Comment Ah okay we have out of state too and we just put on the invite if they want to come they will need to come ahead of time and quarantine so I do not think many far will come. Good luck with yours- I’m so glad you put this question out there Racquel!

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I completely understand your situation. Yeah, we've had so many people say that they are not coming. We have 24 RSVP'd for our Miami Wedding. If we have 50, we will proceed regardless. There's definitely no good answer and sure, you are gonna upset a lot of people but they haven't invested so much emotional energy, so whatever you choose is the best choice. So hang in there and keep planning on! Honestly, it's either now or next year --- a year later! And I don't know about you, but I've been engaged for 2 years and 3 months and I am ready to move past this whole wedding scene! Whatever you choose, people should be supportive of your decision and understand how hard this has been for you. I'm with you!

View Quoted Comment Our wedding is September 19, ~90 guests, been engaged since Thanksgiving 2018 and live in CO, while our family is in Ohio. We already had a whole ordeal over having it in CO where we’ve lived for 5 years and not in OH. Right when we got excited the pandemic hit. We just sent out invites out too 😞 but we are really starting to feel like we should postpone it. I don’t think I could handle it if someone got sick, or worse, just to be at our wedding. Maybe moving forward with a minimum number of guests is the move, but at that rate I don’t see much of our family (older folks) even being there. Doesn’t sit right 😖

View Quoted Comment Hi! Literally same situation(got engaged some time too 💗) just got the news today that we can’t have indoor events in PA over 25 so now we’re thinking of new things.....I get your worry and frustration.

View Quoted Comment If there’s one thing to remember and ground ourselves with is that literally everyone’s wedding is messed up now 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😂 Congrats on your engagement and best of luck figuring this *%$! out!

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Hello Katy,

Its now July 16, 2020 and my daughter has the same wedding date in CO at a private home. Caterer just said boxed food and no buffet (?).....my family all from RI cannot attend. As the Mom of the bride, I am feeling like spending all that money on an event that is tapered to COVID seems a shame....I think I would rather see her get married on that day with the closest of people (her wedding party and parents and siblings) and postpone the gala (reception/dancing/food/cake) until next year when more people can attend. Gov today just REQUIRED MASKS in public.....weird times. What are you thinking these days??

Mom of the Bride

View Quoted Comment We just made the call that we’re postponing. No date picked yet but we’ll use the time to re-evaluate our venue as we see what the world looks like in the coming year. Best of luck to your daughter and family!

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My daughter is going full steam ahead and I am growing more sad with each day knowing that my mother and my husbands mother (East coasters) will not be able to attend nor will any of our siblings or nieces or nephews Makes me SO VERY sad. But I am torn between telling her to postpone the party, get married on "your day" with only 20 of us for now. Feel that I need to "shut up and put up" because the way we handled the wedding festivities is that we gave the couple a lump sum of money to do with as they wish....when that money was gone so be it....they could do anything from city hall and bank the rest, to spending it all on their big day...they have chosen the latter. So I guess I cannot attach strings to that money. I feel sad inside that we wont be able to celebrate with our east coast family...and a little jealous the guest list is mostly comprised of his family. Any words of advice or comments are welcome, just be nice please.