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Christine
Beginner June 2021

September wedding; postpone? Keep?

Christine, on June 23, 2020 at 7:59 PM Posted in Texas Planning 1 24
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I just need some reassurance, guidance, or advice. Our wedding date is 9/12/20, we live in Texas and our COVID-19 cases are spiking. According to one of the projections, if we continue on this constant, we will see a quarter million cases by early fall. 😳 Lots of the projections show a peak in mid-August. I am a nurse and I definitely have everyone’s health and safety at mind. I’ve been keeping up with the CDC guidelines for wedding venues. My wedding was 80% planned pre-covid. I put my planning on pause because covid is changing everyday and it’s effecting how we plan. I know I need to send out my invitations SOON, but I’m just not sure if it’s better to postpone now. Half of my guests are out of town and the other half are in town and that includes my bridal party too. What I’m asking is, what are you thoughts for September weddings. Who is postponing? Who is staying put? I know covid isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, I just don’t want to postpone and it be alright in September. Maybe I’m probably just in denial that this is happening to us. No bride should pile this kind of stress on top of the wedding planning stress. Help. 😔

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Latest activity by Charolett, on June 29, 2020 at 9:29 PM
  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2020
    Kimberly ·
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    I’m with you. San Antonio October bride here. Is your venue large enough and flexible/amenable to all the CDC guidelines for spacing and such? That might be a factor if you should keep your date as planned or not. It might reassure guests to know what arrangements you have made to keep safe distancing as much as possible. But for many it might not be enough. I agree that this pandemic stress on top of wedding stress is the worst. And I don’t think it’s denial, I think you are holding onto hope which is a good thing.
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  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
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    That is so tough! I’m sorry you are dealing with this. My honest thoughts are that in 2 months Texas, and other states, will still not be safe. The amount of cases there and lack of shutdowns and enforcement will help the spread of the virus. (I also just want to say I don’t live there, so from what I have read, there hasn’t been much closures/rules to stop the spread, maybe this information is only partially true or maybe totally wrong.) we also should remember that the numbers are only for tested people....there are asymptomatic people out there that are spreading the virus without even knowing it.

    How many people are invited? If your wedding is small you might be ok. Do you have immune compromised people attending? Can you provide them with N-95 masks? I personally rescheduled my November DW wedding because I simply would not be ok if someone became sick while attending my wedding.

    I felt the same as you at first “what if I postpone and I could have had the wedding” then I started asking myself how I would feel if I waited to postpone, and I couldn’t get a date in 2021? It was so stressful. The day I decided to postpone was so sad, but also a huge weight was lifted. I knew I made the right choice for ME and the guests. I also came very close to not being able to get a new date from my venue. The thought of not having that venue was even more sad! Now, weeks later, I am still happy with my decision, and the new date is May 2021. You need to do what is right for you and your guests! Because you work in healthcare, I have to guess that you probably have higher amount of exposure...? I’m not sure what area of the health care you are in, but we are simply at higher risk. Your guests may be worried.

    I hope you can make a decision and remember to be at peace with that decision! And, Make a plan B! Good luck 💕

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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    I’m a San Antonio bride too! Our venue is The Club at Garden Ridge. It is a big venue. The CDC guidelines say no more than 10 people at a table, which is what we planned. I did accept the fact, if guests don’t wanna come because of their covid concerns, I’ll be fine.
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    Thank you Michelle I appreciate your feedback a lot. Coming from someone outside of Texas Smiley smile it’s extremely hard. I’ll need to set a date when I need to make a final decision on what we’re gonna do and make a plan b.
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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2020
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    Oooh, that place is amazing! I share your concerns, both because of the spikes and apparent lack of our community following guidelines that it is impossible to feel 100% certain of anything. My venue coordinator (The Gardens of Cranesbury View) said she just had a wedding of 180 this past weekend and it went really well. They spaced everything out for ceremony seating and reception tables, had hand sanitizer stations everywhere, everyone wore a mask. The venue itself normally has 350 seating capacity of round tables of 10, so they reduced number of seats per table and kept family units at their own table and bride and groom had a sweetheart table. I feel a bit better knowing there is a solid plan in place even if we have to reduce our 160 wedding to less than half or maybe just immediate family. Maybe reach out to your venue rep/coordinator and see what they have planned to ensure safety? That way you don’t have to do it all.
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    That’s a perfect idea! Omg yes thank you for that. I’ll look into that and then I’ll see where I can go from there. I appreciate your feedback, Kimberly.
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    Legend June 2019
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    My best friend is a sept wedding and she’s staying put. She’s in Arizona where cases spiked. Half of her guest list is out of town. She decided to stay put because her mentality is that if most of her guests can’t come anyway even before covid, then it’s not like she had expect a lot of people to begin with. And she felt as long as those closest to her and most important could come then that’s what matters
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    Savvy September 2021
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    Following! Getting married in September in Galveston. We are having a TOUGH time cutting our guest list to 50% and were really hoping for at least 75% - which isn’t looking great right now. Not sure whether we should postpone and get it over with, or hold out as long as possible. Praying that this works out for all of us! You’re not alone!
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    Oh man cutting the guest list is tough! Hahaha we can get through this! #coronabrides❤️
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    Ooh that’s a great point your best friend has, Melle. Maybe I need that mentality too 🤔
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  • Emily
    Devoted May 2021
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    My FSIL and 22 of her friends got COVID from a club last week in Dallas! So crazy!!


    My original date was Sept 12 in Missouri. About 80% of guests are high risk of getting covid so we decided we would push it back to May 2021. We wanted to put their health first. Our venue/vendors were very flexible. I would suggest reaching out to each vendor and venue to see if you can postpone without a penalty. That might help your decision!
    This might be over in 2021 but at least we have all had a chance to get used to everything!
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    We postponed October 2020 to October 2021. A destination wedding in Vegas with all of us needing to travel and stay for the 3-day wedding weekend. Up until 2 weeks ago, I didn’t realize I was in a type of “bridal denial” and was set on moving forward despite the current reality. But FH and I had a realistic discussion and weighed the pros/cons and (sadly) there was no denying that postponing was best. There were way too many factors specific to our destination wedding to properly host it amidst the pandemic, protests. states reopening, cases/deaths still increasing, unknown future guidelines and more. Hopefully by next October enough time will pass and life will be better managed,
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  • Naikesha
    Super September 2020
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    It's a tough situation to be in. I;m also a September bride but with a DW in Jamaica. I decided to go forth with it after I was encouraged but most of my guest. Now I say all this to say that if it was in Texas with your recent spike I would be biting my nails. I would give yourself a date say 2 weeks from today or at the exact 8 week mark to decide if you are going forthwith because the spread has slowed down or if it's still high then the government will not approve weddings anyway.

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  • Samantha
    Beginner September 2020
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    We are doing a DW in Key West September 12! And we are continuing with our planning. Our guest list is just about 50 at an outdoor venue that has a large capacity. They are also doing no
    More than 10 to a table which is fine and we are trying not to worry too much as long as everything is still open we will go thru with it. We will be going on our honeymoon straight after to Jamaica as well.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    Both of the weddings I was supposed to attend in September have been postponed (I'm not in Texas, though). It's a tough situation to be in, and I feel for you

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    Savvy September 2020
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    We're holding on to our September 5th date for now. We've already had to replan and cut our guest list from 100 down to 40 because our first venue went out of business as a complication of COVID. We plan to offer masks, provide hand sanitizer stations, and space things out as much as possible. We're in NC and we're having a spike in new cases too Smiley sad

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    Just Said Yes July 2020
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    I’m also a San Antonio area bride. We are planning a July 25, 2020 wedding. We were told recently that we could continue to go on with planning up to 75% capacity of the venue. As of right now, we are still staying put on that date with a full understanding that some might not feel comfortable to attend and that’s ok. We cut our guest list down to 40% of the venues capacity. But it’s still around 100 people. I’m having a hard time shaking the nerve or anxiety about it all. 😔 But also postponing/rescheduling for who knows when has the same effect. I don’t know what to do or how to feel.
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    Aw push through! Do what you feel you wanna do! It’s hard to think about postponing because when is this pandemic going to really end, you know? Say you postpone and it’s still not as safe when nearing your second date you know? Idk it’s just been so insane. But i feel you should go through it! You’re SO CLOSE. You’re doing what you can for the guests’ safety. At the end of the day, we’re getting married at the end of the day regardless. Smiley smile
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    Savvy August 2020
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    Not sure it’s much help, but I’m in a similar boat, except our wedding is toward end of August. Our venue won’t refund us anything and won’t allow us to postpone. We are in a position where we cancel and lose out on all our money or have the wedding jeopardizing the safety of our loved ones.


    I would be ensure you are aware of your venues policy on postponing so you have a backup plan. I can’t say what to do, but I do recommend going back to your guests to ensure they are still coming. A lot of people are feeling uneasy in this time and may not come, overestimating your projections. Good luck!
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  • Christine
    Beginner June 2021
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    Thank you for your advice. I THINK I may go with postponing. I feel that’s the best option because of everyone’s safety and like you said with everything going on... it would be best. As sucky as it is, it’s the best decision.
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