Nichole
Just Said Yes September 2021

September 2021 Wedding...still happening??

Nichole, on February 6, 2021 at 3:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 22
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Hey 2021 brides!! Is anyone having major issues and anxiety with the original wedding plans happening?? I’m a California bride with a guest count of 120, but with the current state of our world I don’t see how big events are going to be allowed?! Any one else or am I just worrying over nothing??

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  • Sylvia
    Devoted September 2021
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    Hi!
    I am also getting married in September. In Illinois though.
    I personally am not worried too much about it since it’s still a good amount of time away.The added stress isn’t necessary.I would just not really worry about restrictions or your guest list until maybe around May. Then assess the situation and see how things look!That’s what we’re doing. I totally get it though. We have to wonder “what will Covid look like in 7 months..” and prepare!We got this, girl! 😌
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  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
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    You are not worrying over nothing. CA has had the strictest restrictions out of all the states for the past year and it's so frustrating. But, my daughter had her 85 guest wedding in August in the Bay Area while we were in the red tier (100 max allowed). It was a private venue strictly outdoors, so I know that also makes a difference. With the vaccine roll out and some restrictions starting to lift, I think you will be okay by Sept to have 100 people, but with Covid precautions still in place.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
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    I would continue your planning as much as possible. You still have a lot of time & worrying about it now isn’t going to help. I’m a April ‘21 AZ bride here with a guest list of 90. I work at a hospital & my fiancé is a firefighter/medic so we were in the first round of getting the vaccine. The majority of our friends are hospital employees & first responders so they also received their vaccines as well. We are still prepared to cut the guest list if necessary.
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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
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    Fellow 9/2021 bride! I live in NY and we’re getting married in NJ. I’m getting a bit anxious but trying to plan as normal. Making sure to talk to vendors about how they’re handling things and waiting to see how things are when date gets closer. Hard to do but trying lol.
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  • Nichole
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    That’s pretty much what I’m doing too!! We have temporarily cut the guest list to plan for a smaller wedding but who knows!!
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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
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    Have you mailed your save the dates?
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  • Nichole
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    Yeah I got them out back in November. So now it’s the game of do I send out “just kidding” or “change of plan”
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  • Meghan
    Expert September 2021
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    Oh yeah that’s true! I haven’t sent mine out yet. I was hoping we’d have a better idea but feel like I need to send them soon. Things do seem to be getting better though
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  • Nicole
    Savvy May 2021
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    We are getting married in Pennsylvania in May after postpone from last September. I have been trending covid numbers and keeping track of who has been vaccinated obsessively. We're hoping for the best and have an outdoor plan B just in case.
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  • Catherine
    Dedicated September 2021
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    9/23/21 Tennessee bride here! We’re planning for ~100, outdoor ceremony and indoor/outdoor reception (the tables are inside but they have big roll-up doors so it’ll still be open air). We’re planning full steam ahead, getting ready to send save the dates within the next couple weeks. Quite a few of our guests, my parents included, are already vaccinated and I am holding onto the hope that things will continue to get better and better. By late may/early June I think we’ll have a much better idea of what to expect restriction wise and I know it will vary depending on what state you’re in, but I’m pretty hopefully that things can happen without too many issues! We’ll have hand sanitizer and masks available regardless, probably, and I’m sure there will be at least a handful of guests that still aren’t comfortable with attending, but I don’t see any actual restrictions getting in the way.
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  • Expert September 2021
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    I'm a September bride in SC and we are having ours! It doesn't look like we really have any restrictions as of now. Fingers crossed!

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    We’re October 2021 (postponed from October 2020). I also live in Cali. But our wedding is in Vegas with 65 guests. Unfortunately, last week I found out that our venue is only allowing 25 people (based on state guidelines). Given that, it’s a risky gamble whether our entire guest list will be allowed by October. But since save-the-dates and invitations need to go out months prior to October, I pushed the pause button. However, I’m not sad or stressed because the pandemic is out of my control. Instead, we’re shifting gears and also looking into having a super small wedding in Hawaii, with 20 guests max. So I’ve been in contact with planning companies in Oahu. There are pros and cons to each plan and we’ll make a decision at the beginning of March. Despite all the wonderful plans for Vegas, I’m leaning more and more toward Hawaii (Plus, FH proposed in Hawaii, so it’s got a meaningful aspect to it). And, at this point, I’ll happily take a “weddingmoon” and work toward planning a 1-year anniversary vow renewal with our original guests in attendance. So, it will all work out one way or another. In the end, I’m marrying FH and that’s what really matters. 🤷🏽‍♀️


    So don’t stress the things you can’t control and, instead, have a Plan B and take control of what you can. Best wishes!
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  • Tee
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I agree with what others have said—have a plan b or c as much as possible. Recognize that so much is out of your control at this time. Try to plan as much as you can and relinquish what you can’t control.


    I’m also a CA bride. For my personal health reasons, as well as needing to take more precautions—we’re moving forward with a 20 person ceremony with a boho vibe and an elegant reception/celebration of marriage in 2023 (2022 was already booked at our venue).
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  • MLS
    Dedicated September 2021
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    I am also a September 2021 California bride! Of course I am nervous and anxious. But I am not changing anything just yet. Well that's a lie, I changed to a fully outdoor venue. But I am making no changes to the guest list until the venue says otherwise. Deep breathes, the anxiety is real.
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  • Melody
    Expert April 2021
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    I'm an April 2021 California bride and am honestly pretty shocked at how well I'm doing at NOT freaking out. For reference, I have severe anxiety and depression. For you, though, I'd say this. No worry is too big or too small to be valid. Things have changed so much in the past year that nobody can honestly say they know what things will look like even a couple weeks from now. It is a very real possibility that the exact wedding you want won't be allowed at that time. However, vaccines are rolling out and numbers are starting to look better, making it also a very real possibility that everything will be fine. Don't ever try to just push your worry aside, but also don't let it consume you. When you find yourself starting to get anxious about it, try getting a timer and figure out exactly how long you'll let that feeling stay there. I usually take about 5min to freak out internally and then when that timer goes off move onto something else. If you find yourself not able to get rid of it, honestly seeing a counselor and working through what's going on would be a huge benefit.

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  • Nichole
    Just Said Yes September 2021
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    Sending you a hug right now! Thank you very much for your sweet comment and validating real emotions. From the excitement of getting engaged to the sudden pandemic and constant changing, it has been a rollercoaster year. Thank you and I hope you and your hunny have such a magical, special day!!
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  • Jamie
    Savvy October 2021
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    Didn't NJ just allow wesdimg sfor up to 150 people? I'm praying PA follows and all my worries will go away.
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  • Leigh
    Savvy June 2021
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    I’m a June NJ/PA-Philly bride and thought the same until I read more closely. NJ is allowing 150 for outdoor ceremonies and 25 for receptions held separately (10 indoor) and Philly is currently prohibiting indoor ceremonies. If you’re not in the city restrictions and venues are much looser.
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  • Becca
    Savvy November 2021
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    November 2021 CA bride here, I totally feel your anxiety. I’m getting married in Mendocino County and current restrictions are 12 people or 3 households gathering and an outdoor ceremony of no more than 50 for a maximum of two hours. Just had a call yesterday with our wedding coordinator which was pretty depressing. Our venue is only allowing reschedules for the same month of your booking the following year so I think we’re moving ahead regardless and telling the majority of my immediate family who live in Europe to not come and have another celebration with them when the timing is better. I’m pretty gutted. If we weren’t planning on moving out of the country we might have considered November 2022 but the way things are looking we just won’t be having the event we dreamt of. I feel like so many California brides relate, but it doesn’t make it feel any better.
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  • Megan
    Savvy September 2021
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    We’re getting married 9/26/21 in the Bay Area. We’ve already postponed twice (7/3/20; 10/25/20)! Current guest list is 140. Our venue is mostly outdoors. I’m hopeful the vaccine roll out will make it possible this year. Either way we’re having a wedding this time even if it’s just close family or whatever modification is required. I can’t postpone again. But I’m feeling much more hopeful than last year.
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