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September 2020 Covid 19

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Katie, on April 13, 2020 at 10:57 PM

Hello I hope everyone is doing well! And your families are healthy!

just another covid bride over here...sorry long post...my wedding is September 12, 2020. I emailed my venue here in CO- they are willing to hold a date for us in 2021; which originally made me feel a sense of relief. But now, I’m worried about what to do. My whole side of the family is on the East coast and varying ages we’re all planning on traveling in. I asked my mom her opinion (who then told me to ask my aunt and uncle; this is a week after I asked her to please help me talk to some family members for me besides the point more of a vent) but she did not give any answers at all. My FMIL is very supportive and wants us to do what’s best BUT I finally got her opinion out of her and she thinks we should postpone. No one can plan any of the micro events that they want to (not that I feel like I have to do them but I know my sister and FMIL is sad they can’t/ are nervous). I’m sorry this is so long. I feel like I have no one to talk to about this stuff. My fiancé is the most supportive but I still feel bad and don’t know what’s the right thing to do....

What is everyone else doing?

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Dedicated September 2021
Caley · on April 15, 2020 at 8:18 PM
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Our wedding is 9/5/2020, and we are still planning as normal. We may postpone our ceremony and reception to a date next April or May if conditions haven’t improved in the next few months, but my fiancé and I agreed that we can’t make that determination until late June or early July.

Regardless, we will legally marry on 9/5. Thankfully, our venue is very open to moving our ceremony and reception to a later date with no fines or penalties, and they’ll even allow us to use our ceremony spot at no extra charge on our original date, which is incredibly generous. As long as I get to marry my fiancé in September, I’m okay with the fact that we may have to postpone the rest.
I hope you all take care ❤️
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Katie · on April 16, 2020 at 6:15 AM
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Hello Carolyn! Thank you for your advice. You’re right. We’re following our gut and working on postponing everything to next year as well. Good luck with everything!
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Liz · on April 17, 2020 at 7:55 PM
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We postponed our May 30th wedding to September 27th. Given that countless events that are expecting hundreds and thousands of people have been rescheduled to the fall, I think we'll be ok. Also consider the fact that September is 5 months away. Look at all that has happened in the US in the past 7 weeks...I'm in California and even though our Governor is pretty strict, he only mentioned June, July and August as unlikely timeframes for mass gatherings. Note that weddings are not mass gatherings. Absolute worst case scenario is we'd be restricted to 50 guests or less. Which sucks, but it's better than 10 or less!
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Jay2020 · on April 22, 2020 at 1:49 PM
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9/19 NYC bride here. Half of the guests will be coming from California.
Waiting until end of June to make the decision.
My experience has been a ton of September events have been moved to virtual events or cancelled. Interesting to hear about countless events that have been moved to the fall!!
There is an October date (Oct 24) open at my venue (...because the bride is moving her wedding to next fall), but I'm not entirely sure September to October makes any difference.
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Liz · on April 22, 2020 at 2:36 PM
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I would honestly wait. It could be worse, it could be better. The key here is we really don't know. I'm not in NY (I'm in Cali) but I am expecting events in the summer to be no more than 50 ppl. Not sure what the fall will bring but even if we have to cut down our guest list to 50 ppl, I'm fine with that, I just want to get married lol. I do understand other brides wanting to wait a year though to have everyone on their guest list be able to attend, I just don't have that kind of time (I'm 35 and we are wanting to start a family ASAP).
In terms of the October date, I would stick with the 9/19 date if I were you. I have heard of this thing coming back in the fall (meaning late October/early November) so I think September is actually a safe bet (if you are ok with a lower guest count, which may or may not be a requirement).
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Alexandra · on April 22, 2020 at 3:24 PM
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I’m September 17th 2020. Low key worried. I’m in New Jersey, so anything can happen. I don’t know how I feel about having 120 people crowded in a room while a pandemic happened months before that. What’s making me torn is that brides are postponing their original dates to September. A lot of my guests are high risk and already said in a nice manner that they don’t feel comfortable coming even if things work out in the world. So I’m really torn. I already warned my maids that we are highly thinking of postponing
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Connie · on April 28, 2020 at 6:38 PM
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Same here, mine it was or is supposed to be Sept 18th 2020. Difference from you my venue is charging $2,000 to change the date for 2021 o my on the months of January to April, after that the price goes up. I have people flying in, I can't even send invites or save the dates out because I truly don't know what to do. My fiance is trying to be supportive but I'm sure he is also frustrated by the lack of answers or even flexibility in this regard. I feel like everything is falling apart and I don't know how to fix it. Some people tell me, just postpone, others just cancel (well, the financial investment also is not theirs)
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Samantha · on April 30, 2020 at 7:41 PM
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9/6 wedding - we’re thinking about doing an elopement and canceling the big wedding. My fiancé and I talked it over this week & our biggest concerns are- if things open up, will people be comfortable @ our wedding? Will people be wearing masks? Will people have to be 6ft apart? Along with other concerns. So we’ve decided to start acting on those concerns and start talking with our planner/vendors/venue. Hopeful we can use some of our vendors for the elopement. We’re aiming for the same date & will do it with just our immediate family.
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Katie · on May 1, 2020 at 12:46 AM
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Thanks everyone for their help and opinions! I wish these decisions and choices were easier and that we all could have the year and weddings we planned for. My fiancé and I decided to postpone for a year later. Every day I feel different about it. But, all of my family and friends I’ve spoken to thought it was a good idea and are grateful for the decision made. Today I’ve been pretty sad about it but we took some re-save the date pictures that are making it slightly better...and it was fun! Good luck to everyone moving forward. I wish things would just go back to normally (I understand that’s not reasonable but a girl can dream for everyone!)
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Katie · on May 1, 2020 at 12:47 AM
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Here’s a couple photos
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Just Said Yes September 2020
Raven · on May 5, 2020 at 4:55 PM
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I agree with Liz above, I was an original June 20th bride who moved our date to September 6th 2020. Most likely weddings will be able to continue in September, the number of guests may be a factor but like Liz said, weddings are not "mass gatherings" and may be restricted but it is all still up in the air right now and September is still a few months away. I am hopeful!!
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Jessica · on May 6, 2020 at 6:31 AM
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Katie - sorry you had to make this difficult decision. We were 9.19.20 but we were meant to have a Manhattan based wedding with over half of our guests flying from out of state, wasn't going to work out. I personally didn't feel comfortable putting my guests in that position solely as New York City isn't a desirable destination right now, sadly. We notified all guests last week that we are pushing to fall 2021 and honestly, they were all thankful we made the difficult decision for them. We will still be legally married this year but will have the larger reception Fall 2021. I think you have made the right call to move even though I completely understand the painful decision it is.
My best to you in re-planning your wedding for 2021 and lets hope everyone can get through this year!
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Katie · on May 6, 2020 at 11:25 AM
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Thank you Jessica! I appreciate that! And I’m so sorry to hear you had to make the same decision. But....we will get our wedding weekend without putting anyone at risk and it will be wonderful! Good luck! We will get through this!
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Amazing Planning · on May 17, 2020 at 12:41 AM
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I'm sorry this happened! Is it possible to zoom your ceremony, have a micro wedding here, then you and so travel there, so to limit people traveling, for another( perhaps larger dependingon how many people there) reception. As for the parties you could go glamping or rent a house for the weekend, wear masks, drink great drinks through a straw, have a friend diy the spa, order from a bunch of restaurants, eat 20 types of icecream. You know have a girls night in.
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Katie · on May 17, 2020 at 1:06 PM
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Those are such good ideas!! I love the 20 different types of ice cream!!! I’m going to suggest this to my girls! ♥️ Thank you!
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