September 2020 brides - how is planning going?

Our wedding date is September 5th in PA. Our invitations need to be sent out by mid-June because of our room block deadline etc. I am trying my best to hold out on making a decision, but I am definitely starting to get nervous. FH and I have been loosely discussing rescheduling and today I am going to contact our venue to see what they say. We are having a small wedding to begin with (about 35-45 guests) so that is a plus for us....however, I don’t want our guests to have to wear masks and social distance at our wedding. We have all of our vendors but we still have to get our rings, FH needs his suit, and other details we still need. Feeling so very torn right now!!

We’re September 6th in WI. Most big things are planned. Need to get the guys their suits, wedding rings, final alterations on my dress, flower girl dresses, and my mom (who is super high risk) needs to get her dress. I checked in with my venue a few weeks ago and they were only allowing brides through the first week of June to reschedule without losing deposits. I’m just waiting to get the all clear from them to postpone and I think we’re going to push back to October 2021. I don’t want to give up having the big wedding I’ve dreamed of (approx 130 guests..not too big, but all our family). And the thought of possibly not having a bachelorette and bridal shower because of the virus kills me. I know in the end it’s all about us being together, but this day is something I’ve dreamed my whole life about...

We're September 12th in WI. I have most things done. The venue is booked and ready to go. My caterer is being awesome; we picked out the main food awhile back but wanted to do a tasting for appetizers. They are letting us pick what we want to try and pick it up so we don't have to push that back. Right now we are working a list of songs for the DJ, since we have more free time lol. Invites are ready to be mailed out. We have about 140 guests invited so probably around 120 showing up. I am not worried about postponing. My bridal shower is scheduled for June 6th; while I think some of the restrictions may be lifted by then I'm not sure it's the best idea to have my shower then. But my mom is very positive that it will happen (probably less than 20 people attending).

My date is 9/18/20 for a small intimate ceremony with a bigger party of 130+ people the next day in MA. We are definitely still going forward with the small ceremony because it will be 20ish people but will reconsider in June before we purchase the invitations. Pretty much everything is booked but the anxiety and stress of this uncertainty on top of regular wedding planning, work, and school is making me reconsider having the big event. We are concerned people will be nervous or hesitant about attending a big party especially older relatives and those with new babies so I am beginning to seriously consider cancelling the big party. Honestly just the uncertainty and stress right now is becoming too much that I would rather cancel than stress about it for at least two more months. I haven't been in contact with vendors yet because I want to have a better idea of exactly what I want first so I'll probably begin discussing in May or June. Massachusetts is becoming a pretty big hotspot too.


I can totally relate with you, I want everything planned and set I can't stand the worry of having do scramble at the last minute. You are definitely not alone we are all in this together.

September 26th here. We're pretty much done with planning, just waiting until summer to see how this all plays out. I'm trying to remain positive that our wedding will happen. It's just been really hard. I think isolation is getting to me and I also hate not having control of the situation. We have been in contact with our vendors and they all have said they think we will be ok and not to take any action right now.

We postponed our April wedding to September 13th so we have everything done. We’re just playing the waiting game at this point. I’m definitely nervous about my dress though. I had my first fitting early March and then everything happened so I don’t have a second fitting until August. I have 100% gained a few pounds from being at home and snacking a lot. At this point I’m not really worried about having to postpone it again and I won’t worry until at least late July early August. And we’re still getting married this Saturday so that’s really all that matters to me anyway!

Just thought I’d update after I called my venue yesterday...


As of now we are planning to keep our 9/5/20 date, but our venue has allowed us to hold 9/18/21 as an alternative date. We will need to make a decision by mid-June because our invites will need to go out by then because of our room block deadline. I reached out to vendors to see if they could loosely pencil us in for 9/18/21 as well until we decide - most have been accommodating at this point. I’m happy I reached out to my venue yesterday though because they only had 5/29, 7/3, 9/11, 9/18 and 9/25 open for next year!!!! I still feel torn, but definitely feel more relieved. Praying we can still be married on 9/5/20!