September 19th Wedding....

I wouldn't postpone a September wedding at this point. If things don't start to improve by July, I would start looking into your options.

I understand your stress and concern and I'm so sorry you're going through it.

If this is something that you truly can't get off of your mind, inquire about a date in October or December. Maybe pushing it back a few months instead of another year, would put your mind at ease and still give you the opportunity for your parents to be involved. I'm sure September is ideal for you but you might have to sacrifice the timing to have some of the other ideals. Best Wishes!

I wouldn't postpone just yet. It's still early in the year and the reports I've seen say by July, August at the latest, the virus should be gone. First things first, take a deep breath!!! Try to let go of all your anger, frustration, resentment, and hard feelings Relax! Wedding planning is supposed to be fun, allow yourself to enjoy the process. I know things are stressful right now and there's so much uncertainty. But just know that things will work out for the best, they have a way of doing that. I would continue to plan and vision your big day as you were. If things change in a few months, you can revisit your plan and make a decision. Maybe if you have to postpone past September, you can still get married on your original date to have all the important people there, but have the celebration later.

We just announced today that we're postponing our May destination wedding. Not to scare you, but it is a very real possibility that COVID-19 will still be as big of an issue, or even bigger in September. I would contact your venue to see what they would do just in case.

View Quoted Comment Our venue has already told us that “Should we need to postpone we will allow you first pick at dates. We LOVE the back story of this being where your first- blind- date was, and the “Harry Potter” theme & we want to be here to finish your story up with you getting married here!”


Most of the vendors have the same mentality. Wait and see, & hope for the best!, and if we have to postpone then I will get 3-4 dates from ALL vendors to pick the one that is going to work for all of them AND us.
I am also fighting the health issues of my mom, dad and son. I can’t imagine getting married without one of them there. And I am afraid if that happens to be the case, I am going to be resentful and never ever want my “charming” stepdaughter anywhere near me. I blame her yes for then postponement of the wedding last year. And I don’t know how my fiancé and I will be- as he was at fault too and could’ve told her “No” or “we are still getting married”....
So much is up in the air rn... and I am running in circles. Can’t focus on wedding as don’t know WHEN it will be- sigh. Can’t focus on school as I can’t Focus! And cleaning is getting realllllllly old- Fiancé is complaining and so I am doing it to shut him up and not feeling well in the process( NOT coronavirus, chronic pain/fatigue and seasonal allergies to azaleas.)
Thanks for the words everyone!

Oh I feel for you. At this point I think it's way too early to make a decision about a September wedding. So much can change between now and then.

I would try to stay positive, then re-examine sometime in the summer (late June or July). Fingers crossed for you!

View Quoted Comment Soooooo trying to!!! I am making my plans and trying to make sure I have all the other crap done... Oh and go through my closet and get rid of stuff, out the clothes on non-metal hangers and school- really need to do school lol! I am doing online college for my Associate’s Degree in Paralegal and my end of semester is September 17th! Lol!!!

I'd be thinking about things at 10 weeks out and not before. I would make a website if you haven't and post updates there. I'd also start gathering email addresses so you can send changes on the fly. Email is easier, faster, cheaper than regular mail. My wedding is August 7th - if that doesn't work, then we're eloping with just 5 of us. He and I and our 3 sons.

Contingency plans help to calm anxiety because then you'll know what your choice is if something goes wrong. I wouldn't act on anything I figured out, but I would figure it out kind of like I did above. If Sept date doesn't happen, what's plan B? How would that work - who, where, when - those questions. Then you'll feel more in control. You do have a say in this even if it feels like you don't. You do!

Hang in there!!!

View Quoted Comment THANK YOU!!! I will look at “Plan B” & “Plan C” next month.


I have a website and a Facebook Event and will be posting updates there.
GREAT idea in the email addies tho! I have Some, but not most.
Great “Plan B” for you. I hope that you have the wedding of your dreams.... or at least your “second” wedding of your dreams.....

My wedding is the exact same day and I'm waiting as long as possible before I consider postponing.

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This plan makes a lot of sense to me, so I'm just adding my support! I hope you can keep your date, I hope your family stays healthy, and I hope you can keep from worrying too much and enjoy this time as much as possible, all things considered!