Sent out save the dates but dont want to invite anymore! Help!

A lot of people will give you different opinions on this, but here is mine! It is 100% your choice who you invite. If you changed your mind because these people won’t bring you joy, I do not think they should be present on this special day in your life.

Yes, it’s wrong to not invite them. Is your husband really going to be focused on 6 year old drama at his own wedding?

Well, if they feel the same way as you do trust me they wont go to your wedding. But this will be your big day and you and your soon to be husband need to be as comfortable as you guys can. If you think/feel that you dont want them there dont send the invitations. In my case I sent the save the dates to 150 and only 135 received the invitation🙂

View Quoted Comment I agree with this lovely lady here! It’s your day.. people will disagree and say yes it’s rude.. but what’s rude is people saying you should now invite people that make you feel uncomfortable and if your future husband isn’t okay with it’s just as much his wedding as. Is yours you know? Don’t feel guilty just do what you feel is best!

It’s kind of weird to change your mind on a guest when nothing new has happened. The problem is revoking an invite once you’ve sent a save the date is a big, dramatic move. Especially seeing as you invited them given your intertwined family relationship— taking the invite back will likely create a large wave of drama, and I’d expect that would affect the parents on both sides. Is it worth it? I don’t doubt that they may be bad people, but in this instance, it would be you guys that look bad — not them.

I know you may be reading this thinking “yes but I didn’t actually invite them yet!”— but , really, with that save the date, you did. They’ll be expecting the invite, and will be mad if it doesn’t come. They also now have all the info anyway, with when and where it will be. Would they cause drama? ...again, is it worth it? I’d hope if they had negative feelings toward you still, they’d decline the invite anyway, rather than show up and make a scene. It sounds like old drama anyhow. To uninvite them will just create a whole new set of drama.

Typically if you send a save-the-date you are supposed to send an invite, because save-the-dates are like "pre-invitations." You basically have to weigh the pros and cons - is being considered rude by these people more or less important than only having guests you love at your wedding? Are they going to cause a scene at the wedding or would they stay out of the way? Weigh the two options and see which one seems most worth it. Whatever makes you happiest is the right choice!

It depends on how your fiancé feels. It doesn't matter if it was 6 days ago or 6 years, if he's upset with them and doesn't want them there, then I wouldn't invite them. If he's ok with it and it makes you happy, I say go for it

I agree with McSkipper. If nothing changed since you sent the save the date, I don’t understand why you suddenly feel like you shouldn’t invite them. That wasn’t something you should have figured out before they wound up on the guest list. If you’re prepared for a huge falling out between the families, go for it and don’t invite them, but remember that it won’t just be them and you, it’ll likely affect your dad’s friendship as well.

Honestly they’ll probably decline. Everyone I wasn’t sure about inviting declined anyway.

It would be against traditional etiquette & considered tacky/rude to send a save the date and not an invite. Did you not discuss your guest list with your fiance prior to sending save the dates?

I'd definitely have to agree with those saying don't invite them. It wouldn't matter if they got the actual invitation already, if you no longer want them there that's what it is. This day should be special for you and your FH, that being said if either of you are uncomfortable the day won't be as special.

Yes, it's wrong not to invite them.

View Quoted Comment Did anyone wonder why they werent being invited anymore?

View Quoted Comment Thanks love!

View Quoted Comment No. And they havent ask me. You as the bride should enjoy every moment of it. Invite those people who will dance with you, cry with your mom, laugh and more important invite those you feel comfortable with!❤️

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That's really not a good excuse for such a rude action as disinviting someone or not sending them an invitation after sending them a STD.

View Quoted Comment Thanks love! Congratulations by the way 😘

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Same to youuuu!! Enjoy your day! Make sure you eat while changing! Lol

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Haha everyone keeps telling me that