Sending wedding gift to vendor?

Yes, I think that's weird. You hired her to do a job, and she did it. It's cool to stay in contact, but you're not really friends, you were her client, so yea, I think it's weird.

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Yeah I get what your saying 100%, that's why I was on the fence. I'm just such a gift giver I love giving people gifts, lol.

View Quoted Comment Lol well good for you being such a giving nice person and i get what you mean 100% BUT like fall said, you were a client not a friend. It might not come off as intended if you give a gift. Maybe just send her a nice thank you card, thank her for everything and wish her the best on her upcoming wedding

I feel like if she was talking to you about non-wedding things, you've kinda crossed into friendly acquaintance territory. I don't see anything wrong with getting her something small if you can afford it and if you like her that much. I assume her registry is easy to find and you don't need to ask her or one of her friends for the info? The harder part is wording a message that makes it clear you aren't bribing her for photos or an invite.

View Quoted Comment Yeah she sent me a fb friend request a few days after the wedding (from her personal FB) and she’s commented on some things but we haven’t really actually talked since the wedding, if that makes sense. I don’t want to be weird or make it awkward so I’ll probably just stick to sending her a thank you card after we get pics back

Hmm, this is tough because I have a similar relationship with my photographer. She lives in another state, but I definitely consider her a friend despite having been her client. We kept in contact for the 1.5 years of my engagement, went out to dinner with her and her husband (they are a business team) when they came down to do our engagement photos, and all remain in touch via Facebook still. She's actually coming here in May and we made plans to go out to lunch during her free time

I was 100% going to comment and say yes do it until you mentioned the part where she could consider it a bribe for your photos. That's a good thought.

Had you had your photos back already, I would say it's not weird at all. However, I would probably pass on gifting her this time so you don't look like you have other intentions.

I would suggest you don't. It crosses a line. Facebook doesn't make you real friends.

I am in a similar situation! Where I live everyone knows each other, so all my friends are friends with my photographers, but we had never met until our first photography meeting. We're now friends on facebook and instragram, we like and comment on each others' posts, we sometimes attend the same events as we have mutual friends, and we'll run into each other a lot when I'm in town because it's such a small town. Her birthday is actually on my wedding day and I can't decide if it's weird to get her a birthday gift (like a gift card to a local restaurant) for her and her husband (they are a photography team).

I think the idea behind it is sweet but, a little misguided and may come across a bit weird.

I think you could get a nice card though and write a message thanking her for everything and wishing her all the best on her upcoming nuptials. You could even include a cheque which wouldn't be as odd because it could be considered a tip for good work. If you want to do something else (instead of the cheque) a gift card to a nice local restaurant and a note for her and her soon to be husband enjoy dinner one night would be a nice gesture as well.

I think if you have a relationship outside of the photography it wouldn't be too weird. Do you see yourself ever hanging out, even after her wedding? Is she someone you'd meet for lunch?

I'd probably do a gift card to her registered store, rather than a physical gift or check. A little less personal, so not quite pushing that line as much, and not for a lot of money, just a token something along with a nice card. Send it closer to the wedding or even just after, so it's plainly clear that you're not angling for an invite.

I think a card wouldn’t hurt! I mean I don’t like some of my coworkers but I still sign their birthday cards and what not. I think it’d be a super nice gesture and really kind of you!

My photographers were awesome and came to my destination wedding from Vancouver. We loved them and did a thank you gift, a small something from our destination. We spent $75. I don’t ever think it’s weird to show someone gratitude!