Sending std and Invitation Etiquette.

I'm not aware of any etiquette rule that says you have to mail them rather than hand delivering them. I feel like anywhere you can save money (less postage) is a good thing! So, yes, I think it's perfectly fine to hand deliver them to whomever you can.

I think one of the reasons this doesn't happen more often is that guests just live too far away. But I have a few that I'll hand deliver--to people who live locally, or that I see everyday at work.

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There’s no rule that says that you have to mail them, but if you’re not inviting all of your coworkers, I would at least try to hand deliver them discretely to avoid hurt feelings.

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Where we live it’s a very small town so we hand delivered about 80% of our invites. As for my co-workers I also hand delivered. The only ones that got mailed were out of towns. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it plus you save on stamps.

We hand delivered all of our Save the Dates for my FH’s family who live in the area and are mailing everyone else’s who live out of state. His family all commented on what a nice gesture it was to have them hand delivered. It also gave us a chance to have conversations with each family member, something that’s hard to do at his large family gatherings. I think I talked more to a couple of them during deliveries than I have in 2 years!

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It is always fine to deliver invitations personally. At work, in church, or social places, you need to do it discreetly, not so people not invited will not see it . It is generally considered bad manners to start a discussion about a party in front of those not invited. It is not a secret. But best to avoid situations where these 2 people are invited, but sorry, you are not. If someone not invited asks general questions about your wedding it is fine to talk. But in the process of delivery of invitations, you cannot beat around the bush, who is invited and who not. Best to avoid it. Delivery by hand is not new, it has always happened in many local weddings when B and G want to do it.

My coworker hand delivered her wedding invitation to us last year and I’m planning to do the same for my coworkers. I do agree with the other comments. Try to find a private moment to hand out the invitations so that not everyone finds out or gets hurt they weren’t invited.

My FH and I hand delivered our Save the Dates to those who were local and sent off the rest who were out of town. If a workplace or church and just inviting a few, just do it discreetly. Save your money on other things besides postage so it may go to other expenses!

Good luck on your wedding!

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