Sending save the dates/invitations to people who likely cannot attend

I d invite them, maybe you ll be surprised with a few unexpected yes’. But it’s always nice to feel included even when distance is an obstacle, your family and friend will probably be excited to see the invite even if they cannot make it. Happy planning!

Send them an invite. It's polite, even if they do end up saying no.


That said, I invited my mom's best friend since high school, an honorary aunt to me, really, after she moved from Wisconsin to Texas a few months prior, expecting a no and she came! If they're people you would like to be there, if distance wasn't an issue, send the invite and you may be surprised

We had some people like this too, who live overseas. We sent them a STD and invite digitally so we wouldn't have to pay for the international postage.

I would let them decide what they want to do. If you want them there, invite them!

I would invite them (even knowing they probably won’t attend), but make sure you are comfortable and ok if they say yes, they are coming! Some people may surprise you and some may tie your wedding into coming back home and visiting other family and friends.

Are they an absolute must have guest that it will upset you if they don’t attend? If so, definitely invite them and let them decide if they are to attend. Are they being invited out of obligation and you won’t miss them if they don’t show up? Then don’t send an invitation.


Never assume that because someone is out of state that they will not make the effort to attend. People travel within the country for weddings every weekend without batting an eye as long as they have have the advance notice of a save the date.

I would invite them. They may feel left out if they didn't receive an invite, even if they cannot attend

Thanks for the replies everyone. I’m sending to the folks out of town 😀

I am in the same boat and was wondering if I should send an invite to a few people who are out of town and “probably” not coming. These answers definitely helped!

I invited about 10 people (out of 80) that I knew wouldn't be able to attend because of health or finances. I was right on all of them.