Sending invites to out of the country guests

Could you call the out of country guests and explain what a save the date is?

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My dad is one of 14 siblings and he wants to send invites to just about all of them so I was hoping to not have to since its a lot of people and most live far from one another but I may not have another choice. I would have my dad explain it to them but he doesn't know what save the dates are either lol

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You could do invites then! I don't think it's unreasonable, or your dad could call/email them to tell them the date in advance?

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My dad did but they forget and ask again lol I also suggested sending them our wedding website but my dad would like something more official. I think he just wants to make sure they feel included and not just an after thought since they are all so far away

I think in your case, I would send them maybe a personalized letter along with the save the date, explaining that you are getting married on that day and would love them there. Maybe include some details/suggestions on where to stay, etc. I do think it's kind of strange to send an actual invite so far ahead.

Save the dates are a relatively new concept everywhere, we had a few relatives who didn't know what they were but they just called us or looked them up on Google. I would probably just send them and then if they ask, you or your parents can let them know that it's a just a visual reminder of the date for people that are being invited. Or if you include your website on them put a little note on there for people not familiar with the concept

I say just send the invites, if someone stateside is upset they are being ridiculous!

I've seen a lot of save the dates that have the line "formal invitation to follow" along the bottom. As simple as it is, I think that kind of clears up a bit of the confusion, you could consider something like that

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I honestly did not know save the dates have not been around that long until recently!

View Quoted Comment I thought it was odd when my parents suggested it too, but what do I know lol thanks

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True, I may just do that. I'm probably over thinking this lol

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Agreed! But you know how family can sometimes be.

Hi FutureMrs.C! Did you ever figure out what you are planning to do regarding your OOT guests invitations/STD cards? One suggestion is to send the save the date card along with the invitation. This could be a way to familiarize your OOT guests with the concept of a STD card since they are becoming more popular. Or, as mentioned above you could add a line stating "formal invitation to follow" or add a personalized note to each explaining the purpose of the save the date cards!

I haven't decided yet but I may take your advice and send both! I'm doing both anyway. And my dad really wants them to have the invitations. Thanks!

I have to invite a bunch of out of town guests too! Will you give us an update on how the save the dates were received/how your invitations arrived? I'd like to know if splurging on intricate invitation details will hold up in international shipping. (I'm not getting married until 2020 but idk anyone who has experience with this lol)