Sending gift when you cannot attend

I think most people don't send a gift if they aren't attending.

But, if you want to send one, I think it's up to you when you do. I had one friend send something with the RSVP card that was marked no. And a second card from another person was likely sent around the time of the invitation to.

If I wanted to send something I would do it right away so I didn't get busy and forget.

I usually send a gift whether attending or not. i just send it right away, otherwise im likely to forget.

I usually send it close(er) to the wedding date. I'll usually tape the invite to my calendar on the month of the wedding and send it then.

I would probably send a gift a little after receiving an invitation. Send the RSVP back first, then have a gift arrive to them shortly after perhaps.

We got all gifts from people not attending around the same time they sent back the RSVP saying they weren't coming. Some even just put a check in RSVP envelope and wrote a note on the back of the card!

I always send a gift whether or not I am attending, and will typically send it right away with my RSVP so I don't forget!

Up to you. In my case most people are going ahead and having it sent to the house

Somewhere in betweeney.

I send a gift closer to the wedding date.

I usually send it a couple weeks before the date. I'd hate to send it right before the date and have them be out of town on their honeymoon when it arrives.

For our wedding, we got some checks in the RSVP envelope. Other declines sent gifts as far out as two months ago to as close as yesterday.

I always send a gift, even if I can't attend. If I can't attend, I may not spend as much on it - maybe like $50 as opposed to $100+.

The one wedding I missed I sent a check back with my response card of decline.

I usually send around the same time I do RSVP, otherwise..out of sight, out of mind. The one time I planned to send it later...I totally forgot and didn't get a gift to them until like 6-8 months after the wedding. (oops..)

We got most gifts checks from guests not attending around the same time as RSVPs..

I always send something although it's usually smaller than when I attend (with one notable exception where I sent a large gift because I really wanted to attend but could not afford to fly across the country and stay multiple nights in the hotel at that point).

I typically send it shortly after I rsvp but before the wedding. So like 2-3 weeks before on average.

I always send a gift when I can't attend. I drop the RSVP in the mail then go order something off their registry.

There has only been one occasion I was invited to a wedding and didn't attend. I didn't send a gift. I asked if they had a registry and they said no. I didn't feel compelled to send a check.

I would send it soon after sending the RSVP back. I always send a gift, even if I can't go and that's what I have done. I did have one wedding where they sent their invites pretty early (early may for September wedding). I was able to attend but if I wasn't able to go, I don't think I would have sent a gift that early.