Sending gift registry to guests who are not invited to the wedding

HUGE NO. You never, ever, ever solicit wedding gifts from people who were not invited to your wedding! This is the epitome of rude. Send out the announcements after you wed, and if someone wants to gift you money they will mail you cash or check in a card.

I agree that that is a big no no and a huge and inappropriate gift grab. It's a doubly offensive not to be invited to the wedding and then hit up for presents. Anyone who wants to send you a gift of any kind can figure it out.

When registries are used, they are something wedding guests have to search out themselves, either on a wedding website or by word of mouth. But you should never share a link or registry info either directly or indirectly with anyone not invited to the wedding.

As an aside, IMO honeymoon funds are disingenuous. They are essentially a cash registry and many people are still of the opinion that blatantly asking for money is wrong. The funds just cut a check, they have nothing to do with honeymoons.

I agree with both of the above comments. Mentions of gifts on wedding announcements or invitations is not appropriate. If someone wanted to get you a gift (either monetary or not), they would find a way to do so. But soliciting gifts from those who aren't invited is rude.

People know that gifts are optional and they should not be mentioned at all on announcements or invitations. People want to give gifts to celebrate your wedding and they will ask where you are registered. The only place the registry should ever be announced is in a shower invitation which you are not sending and is being forfeited with the courthouse wedding. Never assume that because one pocket of your social circle or one pocket of your relatives give cash that everyone on the planet does, because a number of families and friends groups find cash/honeymoon gifts to be taboo and they will gift you things that you don’t want and cannot return if you don’t have a physical registry. Graciously accept what you do receive with prompt thank you cards.

There is nothing wrong with including a honeymoon fund on your announcement as long as you’ve mentioned that you’ve gotten married in a small/intimate ceremony or eloped. Congratulations!

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Actually you could not be more wrong. This is insanely rude, and will be viewed as a classless, greedy gift grab by those receiving the announcements. It is basic common sense (and decency) that you never solicit gifts for an event that someone was not invited to! That's like going out to dinner with a group of friends, and asking someone not invited to foot the bill! You also never list a registry or honeyfund on invitations, period.

Below are just a few (of probably hundreds) of articles that explain exactly why this is a huge no no. And just to highlight how wrong it is, it is actually stated on the Honeyfund website!

Excerpt from Honeyfund.com:

Q: Is it proper etiquette to announce our registry with Honeyfund on our invitations?

A: In all our research, we've only found one answer to this question: No! Never mention gifts or gift registries on anything associated with your invitation.

Etiquette Surrounding Registry With Marriage Announcement

Should marriage announcements include gift registry?

The Right and Wrong Way to Share Your Wedding Registry

Oh no. No. That's not appropriate at all.

View Quoted Comment This is not correct. To quote a part of the article listed below, "it's never appropriate to include a wedding registry on a marriage announcement". Even if the ceremony was super small or an elopement, the registry should still not be listed.


https://offbeatwed.com/should-wedding-announcements-mention-a-gift-registry/

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Yes, there is something VERY wrong with any mention of a registry on an announcement. Also, cash registries are also a huge NOPE.

Please do not give people rude and improper etiquette advice. It isn't OK to be rude.

People that want to send you a congratulatory gift will. Heed the advice of others and do not include anything about gifts on the announcement

Yikes! No - don't do that. It's rude to ask for gifts from people you didn't invite to your wedding.

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It's terribly wrong to do that. Terrible advice.

I would definitely not. We put on our website for people attending that we weren’t expecting gifts and would prefer not to get physical gifts but that if someone wished to give us something that we would accept money for an upcoming thing we had planned. But that was an announcement only for people invited.


We also sent out “we got married” cards to those not invited because we also had a small wedding. But we never asked people not invited to gift us anything. Some people sent us money which was very kind but we never asked for it. That’s definitely a no

NO NO NO! That would be the epitome of rude. Registry/gifts should never be mentioned on a wedding announcement, or in any capacity to people who were not invited to the wedding (even for courthouse weddings and elopements). Your best bet is to just send announcements and if people feel so inclined to send you a check, then maybe they will. Do not mention anything about a registry/honeymoon fund/etc. on your announcements