Sending announcement after wedding

I can only speak from experience, and when a cousin of mine got married, we weren't invited probably because our moms haven't spoken in about 2 decades.

I speak to the brides brother, and asked why we didn't get a announcement or something and was told that the bride thought that sort of thing was tacky.

seems that now the way of thinking is all or nothing, invite someone to everything, or do nothing.

I can say that I would have loved to have gotten a announcement and some pictures.

so for my wedding, I may just send a announcement to the brides mom with pictures. if she gets insulted by it then, then she can feel how she feels.

which is exactly the attitude she takes about everything can you tell I didn't sleep well last night?

A mutual friend of FH and I got married and no one knew about it until they sent an "announcement" after the wedding. OH my LORD the firestorm it created...and I really did not understand why, but it upset a lot of people. For one, the couple only had like 20 people at their wedding and it was cake & punch only at the park for about one hour. There was no need to invite a slew of people. But, they had post cards made with their wedding photos on them and sent them during Halloween (like, Happy Halloween we are married!) It was a little weird...but then a full blown attack ensued on Facebook of "OMG why wasn't I invited." The grooms family blew up, a bunch of their friends were insulted, it was totally stupid. So, I would say it is okay to send a notice to everyone whom you sent an invitation, but if you think your family will freak I would wait and send a Christmas card instead.

I think ppl take things too personal sometimes. The whole reason ppl get married is overshadowed by all the little things. I want what I want and don't want to lose sight of why I am getting married to begin with. So all I can do is do it and ppl will talk if they want. Is what it is.

Folks stay in their feelings. EVERYBODY CANT GO TO EVERYTHING. If all I received was an announcement I would say congratulations and keep it moving.

I would tie it into a card. Since you're getting married before Christmas just send a Christmas card or New Years card to those with a picture from your wedding day. It's a lot easier and would hopefully not upset anyone!

People used to send out announcements after they got married to everyone that was not at the wedding. I don't see a problem with it. I think people get upset when the get them because they did not know the were getting married but are ok if they know before hand.