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Sending a second thank you note to a late gift-giver?

Holly, on August 20, 2021 at 1:26 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15

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My aunt did not buy me a wedding gift. When I wrote my thank you notes I wrote one to her thanking her for celebrating with us. I suspect she received the note and realized she hadn’t bought me a gift yet because well over a month after my wedding, after I sent the note, she just gave me a gift from my registry. Do I have to send her a second thank you note? What should I do here? On the one hand I want to acknowledge and thank her for the gift but it just feels weird to send another note.

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Latest activity by Hanna, on August 20, 2021 at 5:27 PM

Master October 2020
Yasmine · on August 20, 2021 at 2:09 AM
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I personally wouldn't send another one, I would just send a text or thank her in person.
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devotedlydavis · on August 20, 2021 at 6:13 AM
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I would send her a thank you note for the gift. If the first one was for presence only, a second would be warranted for the gift. I write thank you notes all the time though, so I may be old school.
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Devoted February 2022
Chloe · on August 20, 2021 at 6:34 AM
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I would probably just call her to thank her in person.
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Master July 2018
Mcskipper · on August 20, 2021 at 7:57 AM
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Yes, you still need to thank her for the gift !!
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Super June 2021
Bird · on August 20, 2021 at 8:42 AM
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I would write a second thank you card.
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Super July 2023
Eniale · on August 20, 2021 at 8:57 AM
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I'd personally send a second thank you card.
Perhaps she did forget to get you a gift. Then when she received your thank you card, she said CRAP! I FORGOT TO GET THEM SOMETHING! and quickly bought you a gift.
You not sending a thank you could be construed as - well, you know that she forgot to gift you something. Which might make her feel bad.
She also could have just not been able to get you a gift before now for whatever reason.
In any case, all gifts - even those received after the wedding, or after a thank you for your presence card - should be acknowledged graciously in writing.
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Rockstar October 2023
Cece · on August 20, 2021 at 9:20 AM
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I would send a second thank you card. It may be redundant, but always better to err on the side of cautious.
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Dedicated October 2021
Ruby · on August 20, 2021 at 9:33 AM
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I wouldn’t send a second thank you note. Instead give her a call to thank her
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Allie · on August 20, 2021 at 11:18 AM
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I would definitely send a thank you note via the post! Maybe use different stationery this time!
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VIP January 2020
Vicky · on August 20, 2021 at 12:24 PM
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Yes, you should send her a thank you for the gift. You did not need to thank her for attending, but you do need to thank her for the present. She also wasn't actually late with the present; guests have up to a year after the wedding to give a gift.
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VIP January 2019
Maggie · on August 20, 2021 at 12:55 PM
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You should absolutely thank her for the gift. At the very least, she needs to know it arrived. You can call her or mail her a note, whichever you think she would appreciate more. And also, the fact that she sent this gift a mere month after the wedding doesn't make it shameworthy or worth mentioning.
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Just Said Yes November 2021
J · on August 20, 2021 at 1:34 PM
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Hi, I would not send her another thank you note. You can call her if you’d like.
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VIP October 2022
Samantha · on August 20, 2021 at 2:13 PM
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I would. I don’t plan on sending thank you’s for attending, though, I never knew that was a thing until I read it here.
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Rockstar November 2054
Jacks · on August 20, 2021 at 3:50 PM
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Yep she needs another thank you note.
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