Send off "toss" - after ceremony or reception?

It's definitely not necessary but I think it would depend on if your ceremony were inside or outside. Like I'm not sure you would want people throwing things like birdseed on the floor at a church ceremony, ya know.

ETA: Church wasn't the best example since you usually leave the church to go to a separate reception venue. But, throwing things indoor was what I meant, ha.

Confetti is usually thrown when the bride and groom leave the ceremony (outside). In SA, after the ceremony, the couple will sign the registry and marriage license. The guests will gather outside while this happens. When the couple leaves the church/chapel, confetti is thrown.

We're doing lavender as well.

Oh right I forgot to mention, my ceremony is outside so we're free to toss whatever on the "aisle". There's not really anywhere for us to do it other than the aisle for recession since there will be a carriage waiting at the end of the aisle to take us to the spot for photos.

@Jennifer, that was very helpful! Thanks. I thought I was remembering wrong when I was reading stuff about this happening at the end of the reception haha

Here's a photo of my venue, it'll have an arch next to the little building and the aisle leading up to it. The spot the picture was taken from is a stone wall with steps leading down to it, everything behind that is just a grassy slope. So no other really good spots to line people up like that.

You might be thinking of the send off at the end of the reception. We don't do that, but I've heard it mentioned on WW.

Confetti is common in British and South African weddings, and might need a bit of planning if your guests aren't used to it. But it's not brain surgery to gather in a line and throw confetti as the couple walks past... lol. It's always a fun picture for the photographer to get.

I've seen pictures of the toss occurring when the couple is leaving the ceremony but have only ever seen it done at the end of the reception in person. Then again, all of these weddings have been in churches, which I think makes the logistics of the post-ceremony toss a little more difficult. It also seems a little pointless to me if the couple is staying at the church to take pictures and not driving off to another location.

All that to say I think either way could work; it just depends on the day's logistics and the venue. I think your plan sounds perfect and not weird at all.

@Sally thank you! It's good to know it doesn't sound weird. I got so nervous after seeing so much about it being at the end of the reception. I've honestly only been to 3 weddings so I don't have a lot of first hand knowledge to go on haha

Who is responsible for cleaning it up afterwards?

@cassandra can't speak for OP, but here if it's thrown outdoors and it's flower petals or something biodegradable, they usually allow it, no cleanup necessary. If the venue rarely doesn't allow it, we do bubbles.

@cassandra and the others mentioning clean up, my venue allows anything and everything except fireworks for the event, and they clean up everything except the food trash, which is the caterers problem. it's a very relaxed venue as far as rules go, I double checked all rules before I signed the contract for it thankfully

If you're tossing anything floral, please let your guests know. I'm severely allergic to lavender, to the point where there's no way I could attend, especially if it's being thrown. It's an awesome idea and it will be beautiful, but just give guests a heads up so they can plan accordingly if necessary.

Yikes, I didn't know lavender was an allergen. I thought about using it in some way too. Good to know!

MrsSki I hadn't thought of that! I'll put it on my wedding website and get the word out (once we buy the Lavender since it's possible I may still do bubbles dependent on cost) about that. I'm allergic to lemon so I totally get the obscure allergies but still hadn't thought about notifying my guests. Definitely putting that on my to do list.