Send Invite to someone who can't come?

You're supposed to send an invitation to everyone you sent a STD to. I don't know if everyone knows this but I guess that's what is proper. Maybe to someone that said no they'd be like what the heck I already told her no when she sent the STD, but if it's someone that knows the proper etiquette they'll know to expect one anyway.

Everyone on here say to send an invite even if they said no to the STD'S. I got a couple no's to my STD'S also and I feel like it looks like you're looking for a gift if you send them an invite. I don't know what I'm going to do.

I would send the invitation and include a personal note " I know you said you wouldn't be able to make it, but I wanted you to be included. If circumstances change, please know that we would love to have you with us on our wedding day."

Struggling with this, too. We haven't decided what to do except that I think we're not sending invites to FH's French relatives who can't come. Cross-cultural wedding etiquette is tricky enough as it is, and when we saw them in March they told us they thought our STD was the invite.

I thought it wasn't proper to put registry info on the invites? I mean I as a guest would appreciate it but I thought people seen it as rude?

FH grandparents aren't going to be able to come because of their health, but we are still sending an invite for them as a keepsake. They even told us they can't come but still want an invite!

I have several family members that are very old and live 8 hrs away, but I still sent them as a courtesy.

We didn't send save the dates, but we know for a fact FH's 97 year old great grandmother who is very frail won't be able to make it. We still sent her an invite though because we felt it was the proper thing to do.

I had a friend who said she couldn't make it at STD time, but I still sent her an invite.

She didn't fuss at me about it. Plans could have changed.

It's polite to still send an invite. Not sending one would be like uninviting them. And circumstances change, especially after 6-8 months. They may end up being able to attend.

You send the invitation anyway. There's a reason why the response card says 'accept' or 'decline'. Also, people change their minds or make arrangements to come.

I'm still sending them to people who I know can't come. I feel like it's a polite thing to do.

After sending STDs, we heard back from a few OOS guests that they couldn't make it. We just let them know that we'd still be sending a invite to everyone, as PP said...plans change. If I were a guest, I wouldn't see it as gift-grabby.

Send one because plans can change.