Selfish Vent Time

In a way i can kinda understand. My brother and his gf have been together for, i would say 14 years. They have 3 boys. Well last month they tell my mom that they are planning on getting married later this year (that if she looses the weight she wants.) I believe a family should be together. i am not complaining about that. But why pick my wedding year? I know I am being selfish but i feel like she is taking my spotlight cause everyone is happy they are getting married. I know this all sounds crazy but i get you what you're saying.

I question a lot of people too. I got engaged back in May 2019 and won't get married until October 2020. I've had so many people I know get engaged within the last two months and they plan on getting married this summer. It's WILD. BUT a lot of parents set savings aside specifically for this purpose. That wasn't the case with me so I needed time to save money. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter. There's no trophy for getting married first, having a shorter engagement, you paying vs a parent paying... The day is about you and your FH I'd just let it go!

If it's any consolation..... your wedding with all the details to make the guests have a good time will be waaaaaaay more fun than theirs! Also your "bone and not feel guilty about it" comment has me ROTFL! Literally like you're 18 - geez go have some dam# fun in your life before you get married. lol

I get how you're feeling. FH and I got engaged in June 2018. Due to him being in grad school we decided not to get married until this coming November. My cousin, about the same age as me, got engaged March 2019 and is getting married in July. She's in my wedding. And I really did get pretty mad when I figured out when they were getting married because I didn't want her getting married first. My mom isn't the greatest at staying in touch with my family, so I'm convinced everyone is going to go to her wedding and not mine since our whole family is spread out.

Let them do their thing. As long as you know how much work you put into planning your wedding and you are proud of it, nothing else matters. Plus, if they are getting married "to bone and not feel guilty about it", they will have one heck of a wake-up call when they realize marriage is not all about that. I'm sorry your favorite cousin replied no. Maybe call and talk with her about it. I know if it were my favorite cousin, I would feel some type of way too.

Better for them to do it after than before you

Watts is right. I don't think getting married young is a good idea, either, but you've got no right to be so judgmental of your perceived reasons for them getting married. If they don't want to shack up, good for them.

Im sorry you're feeling this way. I know what you mean because we have had some exciting things pop up for friends that will happen close to our wedding. But 7 weeks seems like a good amount of time between events. I'm sure your guests will appreciate all of the work and effort you put into it.

I can completely understand, my fiancee and I were engaged in October and are getting married in June of next year because of the venue availability and my grad school. My best friend was engaged a week before Christmas and my cousin got engaged on Christmas. My best friend is getting married in December and my cousin planned her wedding for August.

My MOH keeps reminding me that the wedding is about us and nothing else matters but it still sucks. Especially when my aunt of said cousin mentioned how cool it would be for my cousin and I to be married around the same time (this was before she was engaged when I told my aunt about my engagement).