Mandi
Master October 2020

Selfish Vent Time

Mandi, on February 18, 2020 at 11:49 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 17
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I'm annoyed right now.
I'm not like under the impression that nobody else can get married besides me this year. But my baby cousin (18ish) just got engaged last month. And I just got an invitation in the mail today. They are getting married 7 weeks after us.
I'm sorry. Really??? I've spent a year planning and trying to make things great and accommodate a good time for all of my guests.And you're throwing together an alcohol free shindig in 4 months so that you can bone and not feel guilty about it?I just feel like I've spent so much time focusing on the fact that I want my guests to feel welcome, and I don't feel like that's going to be the case with this wedding.I'm also salty that his mom (one of my favorite cousins) RSVPd no to our wedding. Because they just sprung all of this on her, so she couldn't afford to make the trip for my wedding and theirs.End of rude rant.

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Latest activity by Jacklyn, on February 29, 2020 at 1:12 AM
  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I’m sorry hun, at least they’re getting married after you though, not before! Just try to relax and enjoy your day with the people who will be there. If they can only go to one, most people (other than his mom of course) are more likely to go to yours over his since it’s sooner and you invited them first.
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  • Watts
    Super March 2020
    Watts ·
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    Honestly, I understand your natural reaction, but they aren't doing anything wrong. If they were getting married the same week you'd have right to be upset, but 2 months is a big difference. They are probably just excited about their wedding as you are about yours, and they have just as much right to do it when they want as you do. This is more of a problem with your mindset than their wedding choices.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Some people are really fast. One of my friends got engaged dec and is having a big wedding in a couple weeks. Some people just have a fast timeline
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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    True. I'm just protective because getting married that young isn't the best idea. And super religious people getting married so they can have sex just makes me cringe.
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  • Teresa
    Devoted September 2020
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    Omg I know exactly how you feel. My fiance's sister is having her 20 year wedding anniversary the weekend right after ours. My brother the month right after ours & my MOH 2 months after ours.
    It's really driving me crazy.
    I already told all of them we would not be able to help financially because it's so close to our wedding & most likely we will still owe our wedding by then. Oh and mind you that my honeymoon is 2 weeks after our wedding
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  • Anna
    Super April 2020
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    In a way i can kinda understand. My brother and his gf have been together for, i would say 14 years. They have 3 boys. Well last month they tell my mom that they are planning on getting married later this year (that if she looses the weight she wants.) I believe a family should be together. i am not complaining about that. But why pick my wedding year? I know I am being selfish but i feel like she is taking my spotlight cause everyone is happy they are getting married. I know this all sounds crazy but i get you what you're saying.

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  • Shania
    Devoted September 2021
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    I understand your frustration. My mother got married last year and her initial wedding date was May of this year. A lot of our family is out of state so they would also have to choose which wedding they would want to attend. That’s why I was so happy when my mom decided to get married May of 2019 instead. But don’t worry about it girl. Enjoy your day you worked so hard to put together❤️
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  • Hillary
    Expert October 2021
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    I totally get it. My brother just got engaged and after saying they weren’t going to start planning after my wedding, they have started planning. Which is completely annoying because it’s stressing my mom out more(my parents are paying for their wedding as well). And then they go and pick April 24 2021. Ours is April 25 of this year. Like, why? Could they really not pick any other of the 52 Saturday’s? I’m sorry, I do not want to share an anniversary with my brother. I told him this and they changed it to April 17. Fine, but also why do you want to be like us? They’re just a weird couple.
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
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    I question a lot of people too. I got engaged back in May 2019 and won't get married until October 2020. I've had so many people I know get engaged within the last two months and they plan on getting married this summer. It's WILD. BUT a lot of parents set savings aside specifically for this purpose. That wasn't the case with me so I needed time to save money. In the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter. There's no trophy for getting married first, having a shorter engagement, you paying vs a parent paying... The day is about you and your FHSmiley smile I'd just let it go!

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  • Fleur
    October 2020
    Fleur ·
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    If it's any consolation..... your wedding with all the details to make the guests have a good time will be waaaaaaay more fun than theirs! Also your "bone and not feel guilty about it" comment has me ROTFL! Literally like you're 18 - geez go have some dam# fun in your life before you get married. lol

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  • Kayla
    Devoted November 2020
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    I get how you're feeling. FH and I got engaged in June 2018. Due to him being in grad school we decided not to get married until this coming November. My cousin, about the same age as me, got engaged March 2019 and is getting married in July. She's in my wedding. And I really did get pretty mad when I figured out when they were getting married because I didn't want her getting married first. My mom isn't the greatest at staying in touch with my family, so I'm convinced everyone is going to go to her wedding and not mine since our whole family is spread out.

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  • Holly
    Dedicated September 2021
    Holly ·
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    Let them do their thing. As long as you know how much work you put into planning your wedding and you are proud of it, nothing else matters. Plus, if they are getting married "to bone and not feel guilty about it", they will have one heck of a wake-up call when they realize marriage is not all about that. I'm sorry your favorite cousin replied no. Maybe call and talk with her about it. I know if it were my favorite cousin, I would feel some type of way too.

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  • Jennifer
    Dedicated May 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    Lol just be happy their wedding isn't the day before yours like what my cousin did to me
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  • MIWM
    VIP June 2019
    MIWM ·
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    Better for them to do it after than before you

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  • P
    January 2014
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    Watts is right. I don't think getting married young is a good idea, either, but you've got no right to be so judgmental of your perceived reasons for them getting married. If they don't want to shack up, good for them.

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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    Im sorry you're feeling this way. I know what you mean because we have had some exciting things pop up for friends that will happen close to our wedding. But 7 weeks seems like a good amount of time between events. I'm sure your guests will appreciate all of the work and effort you put into it.


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  • J
    Savvy June 2021
    Jacklyn ·
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    I can completely understand, my fiancee and I were engaged in October and are getting married in June of next year because of the venue availability and my grad school. My best friend was engaged a week before Christmas and my cousin got engaged on Christmas. My best friend is getting married in December and my cousin planned her wedding for August.

    My MOH keeps reminding me that the wedding is about us and nothing else matters but it still sucks. Especially when my aunt of said cousin mentioned how cool it would be for my cousin and I to be married around the same time (this was before she was engaged when I told my aunt about my engagement).

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