Self Invited Guests

Yup

Yes, it is. I would ask them "or what?"

Of course it is. I've been laying low but my response is "I'll see. We have limited seating and family comes first"!

Hahhaha "or what?" I wish I had the balls!

My standard reply is that since this is not our first marriage, we are keeping it simple with just immediate family, and a few close family friends. I'm just worried about crashers at the reception, which is going to be a very elegant, and intimate cocktail party style affair. I included on our web page that "cocktail attire" is suggested, which will hopefully discourage a few.

Sure that's rude. Nobody said anything like that to me.

We keep getting that each time were around family. Going to FH sister's wedding on Friday and she invited a lot more of the family than we did.... we're bracing ourselves!

Yup. One woman actually said to me "you should get married here (DMV area) so I could come to your wedding". I told her no.

Exactly! People I'm only acquainted with through a work connection, or people I rarely see or talk to, or distant relatives I'm not even sure I'm actually related to, are like, "I'd better get an invite, I wouldn't miss it for the world." Much like Millie posted, I've been laying low on social media, not talking about the wedding much, but no one should have to do that because of other' s lacking in social skills.

My co workers do this almost daily. & honestly I don't feel as if I owe them an explanation as to if they're invited or not. I just ignore it. Like straight up change the subject. They just won't get an invite, then they'll know they're not invited.

It's so fucking rude & annoying.

I can't even mention anything related to the word wedding on facebook because I get all of the comments asking about where their invite is. Do people like free food and liquor that much lol.

I had a couple of those and that only confirmed in my mind that they wouldn't be invited. Best way to keep crashers away is to keep date, place and time of your wedding off social media.

Luckily we've only had one person do this...Friday we will see if they crash it!

I'm starting to think, that even as much as my heart is set on getting married at the chapel we've reserved, eloping might be less stressful, and that way, no one gets their feelings hurt.