Self invite or plus one?

People who assume bother me the most. Either by assuming they're invited to our wedding or assuming that they can bring whoever they want when their invite definitely doesn't imply that. I did have a friend ASK me if she could bring a date and I had to tell her no and it was totally fine.

In both of these situations, just tell them you have budget/venue capacity restrictions (which is a real reason for lots of couples, us included) and that you just aren't able to invite everyone that you want to or give plus ones.

Ugh. Both of these are cringe worthy situations. And I have dealt with both of them already LOL In both situations, I simply told them that we were having a small wedding & there were strict venue limitations on the number of people we could invite, so it was going to be mostly family.

I'd rather someone ask if they bring a plus one, than someone ask if they are invited.
Much rather consider a plus one on a case by case basis, than awkwardly tell someone they aren't invited.

I'd prefer people ask for a plus one than assume they are invited when they aren't. We didn't have either of those things happen but we invited 225 people and everyone in a relationship had a plus one.

I have a coworker who assumed(s) that she is invited to the wedding, about a week later she asks me “would I be allowed a plus one or would you rather me come alone?”. Our guest list is small enough that adding her isn’t a problem, the problem is she just assumed she was invited.. 😕

My best friend’s parents have asked my parents THREE times already if they’re going to be invited to the wedding >.< They were going to be, but now they’ve irritated me enough that I’m second guessing it.

The self invite! Especially when you’ve only known the person for a year or 2 and hung out with the person occasionally.

We declared right from the beginning that we were doing a small wedding so we haven't really had a lot of people asking if they're invited. We did, however, have one ask if he can bring a plus one. It's actually fine. It's FH's friend from middle school and he would have to travel to get to the wedding and he doesn't know anyone except for the two of us so we said yes when he asked if he could bring a date. I think he has a girlfriend but we haven't met her. This will still keep us under our 50 person limit. I can see how it would be infuriating though on a larger scale. I would be more irritated with people asking if they were invited.