My fiance and I are considering self-catering our reception. His family did this for his brother's wedding a couple of years ago: smoked Boston butts, baked beans, potato salad, rolls (I think), sweet tea, lemonade, water, and pecan pies for dessert. His brother offered to smoke the meat and my future mother-in-law told me they would be willing to do the same for us if its what we want. She said it was not as difficult as one would think because they were organized, had plenty of helpers, prepared simple food they already knew how to make, and hired people to manage the buffet during the wedding. The guest list for them was approx. 200 people and they did not have access to an actual kitchen since the venue was essentially an open field.
This is an incredible offer and I know it would save us a lot of money. I'm also comforted that they are confident they can easily do it again for 150 people and our venue is indoor/outdoor with a warming kitchen - fridge, stove, oven, and industrial sink. His family is large and is accustomed to hosting large events (not like weddings, obviously), and they borrowed almost all of the serving/catering dishes needed. The food was SO delicious at his wedding, so I'd be ok with having something similar for ours.
My concern is the logistics of putting it all together, hiring dependable waitstaff, and of course the fact that my family is hesitant to do so. I've told them we do not want anyone to be burdened, feel overwhelmed, or inconvenienced by any part of the wedding, but I know they would help if they wanted to of course. I'm just so afraid of this turning into a huge mess, catering is so expensive and its definitely tempting to DIY and save money.
Any advice for those who have self catered their reception? We'd also like to have a simple cocktair hour with finger food like cheese, crackers, and/or fruit or something since the wedding will be in April. Thank you!
