Selective kids

For a destination wedding? Honestly, yes, unless you're truly ok with your friends who have kids not coming to the wedding. I can't imagine many parents being ok with leaving their young kids for an extended trip. A single night, sure. But not a destination wedding.

View Quoted Comment Hehe let me clarify the destination part. I live in Hawaiʻi where I will be having the wedding so it’s destination for my cousins who have kids and live in the mainland. All my friends with kids live here..so it would be just a night away.

I think it would be odd to invite some kids and not others just randomly. I have seen brides invite only kids in their families, but I think that's even offensive. I'd invite all the kids or no kids, especially for a destination wedding. If you invite no kids, I assume way less parents will attend.

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Oh then I think that's fine, as long as it's a clear line that ONLY family members (or only people traveling from the mainland) can bring kids. Picking and choosing between individual kids would be pretty rude. I love Hawai'i! My fiance and I are honeymooning on Maui

Definitely not weird. This is called inviting in circles (i.e. if you invite one siblings children, you invite all siblings children, or all cousins children) and it's totally fine to draw the line at family children. Just do not over-explain or splash "no kids except family" anywhere - invite your friends by name only and if the try to RSVP for their children too just follow up with "unfortunately the invitation was just for you and John - we hope we will see you there!"

I think it’s fine to invite children in your family and not your friend’s children.

Children of family members should be well understood and accepted by all the guests, in my opinion!

View Quoted Comment OMG Aleks you are? When? Where you staying? Email me!!!!!!

I agree, it's not weird as long as there's a firm line on family ONLY for the kids, that way your friends don't get upset that their kids aren't there and others are.

I'm also having a destination wedding, and only immediate family children are invited to my wedding. This includes my son, my niece and nephew and my fiances' niece. I've even excluded all my adult cousins. None of my friends have a problem with it, and most of them think it's great they have a built-in excuse of why they have to leave their kids at home.

View Quoted Comment Haha ok yeah. My friends are so ok bored to having an excuse to leave the kids at home. I’ll see them the next weekend when we go to the beach!! Thanks