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Felicia
Just Said Yes June 2021

Secret Engagement..

Felicia, on June 16, 2020 at 3:59 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 15
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My boyfriend proposed in April. It was spontaneous so without a ring in our kitchen but I didn't care I was so happy. We have an incredible relationship and he is truly the best thing to ever happen to me besides my kids. He couldn't really get a ring because everything was closed due to Covid 19. Understandable. We decided not to tell anyone until he couldn't get one and do a "real" proposal. But now everything has been open for awhile. We booked a venue for next June. I keep getting my hopes up, mother's day, our anniversary, the day the is going to be our wedding day next year, the vacation we are on now. But it all just keeps passing. (It should be noted that he is a major procrastinator in many aspects of life) We've talked about it and he just "hasn't gotten around to it". I can't exactly push it too hard, the last thing I want is it to be out of guilt or nagging. But now hes saying he will get it eventually and I can tell people if I want, hes impartial. And I'm so stressed because shouldn't he care? I don't care about the lack of fancy proposal, it was sincere. But looking back he was also tipsy and we thought I might be pregnant. I wasn't but we ended up being disappointed so now we are trying for a baby too. I'm so stressed out

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Latest activity by Nefetera, on June 18, 2020 at 7:41 AM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    What exactly are you stressed out about ?
    Congrats on your engagement
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    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    Mine is also a last minute kind of guy. It irritates me to no end. If the ring means that much to you, next time you're at walamrt (because budgets, or just out, you know whatever works) casually go look at the rings. Point out what you like thats within budget and hope for the best. Hint about it. Sometimes they need that pressure to get off their butts and do what needs to be done. I need to note that I'm not the naggy type either but when something needs to get done like now I can be. Let him know he needs to 💩 or get off the pot.
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  • Felicia
    Just Said Yes June 2021
    Felicia ·
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    He asked me in November to write down what I like and don't so he can keep it in his wallet. It isn't the ring it's his lack of interest in telling anyone, in making it official, in anything. I'm wondering why he even proposed and why moving forward isn't a priority
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would maybe talk to him about if he really wants to get married given the circumstances around the proposal. My husband and I opted to get engaged spontaneously too, without a ring. However, we told people right away (family first and then friends) and made it public well before I had an actual ring on my finger. The fact he doesn't want to tell anyone is what's making me think that maybe he proposed cuz he felt it was right rather than what he wanted and that may be why he's dragging his feet.
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  • Katie
    Expert January 2021
    Katie ·
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    Was he excited about booking the venue? If he's on board with wedding plan I would like to think the formal proposal is coming soon.

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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    You have a venue booked, which means you have a wedding date, which means, Congrats!, you're engaged! Make plans to go ring shopping together and enjoy planning your wedding together. Well, first enjoy your vacation. Smiley smile

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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    Congrats! The commitment makes you engaged if he asked you already. A ring is nice but it's not required and doesn't make the proposal you already had invalid or not real. Nor does it imply that he will automatically ask you again later with a ring.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    We discussed getting married and firing a conversation in the car he asked “the question.” Afterwards we eventually picked out a ring together. I honestly didn’t expect to get an engagement ring the way it happened, and It wasn’t all up to him to surprise me. If it’s important to you, then have a conversation about how you feel instead of bottling it up. Communication is key 😊
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  • Nahnie2552
    Dedicated October 2020
    Nahnie2552 ·
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    This is a tough one. Sometimes, men appreciate the marriage more than the ring, cake and ceremony. What I mean is he may not care too much about the ring and just wants to be married. Maybe ask if he'd like to elope instead; that way you can gauge him.
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    Super October 2020
    Leslie ·
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    A ring doesn’t make you engaged so congrats. You’re engaged. I guess it’s time to start ring Shopping together for wedding rings.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    My hubby proposed with a temp ring and I think it took 5 months before we went rung shopping together. It seemed overwhelming and I was busy with a new job. Maybe ask to plan a ring shopping date?
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  • Ashshaw2022
    Dedicated May 2022
    Ashshaw2022 ·
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    He asked you you said yes that was your proposal congrats your engaged
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
    Renee ·
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    It could be coming on this vacation... Congrats on your engagement!

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    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I don't really understand this, to be honest. He proposed in your kitchen, with a ring. You booked a venue. You're planning a wedding. You're trying for a baby. By your profile picture you have kids already...?

    I understand wanting to have the proposal experience, but you were proposed to, and you have moved forward with your lives. You are engaged...I would just go with it.

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  • Nefetera
    VIP March 2015
    Nefetera ·
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    So he hasnt got the ring your saying? Why are you stressed? And i wanna say congrats
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