FutureMrsWerner
Just Said Yes December 2018

Secret eloping then wedding tips

FutureMrsWerner, on July 6, 2018 at 12:36 PM

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My fiancé has always wanted a small elopement (just me and him) and I’ve always wanted a big wedding. So we started weighing the option of him and I getting secretly married a month or two before the actual wedding and not tell anyone, as our families would be very upset to not have been involved....
My fiancé has always wanted a small elopement (just me and him) and I’ve always wanted a big wedding. So we started weighing the option of him and I getting secretly married a month or two before the actual wedding and not tell anyone, as our families would be very upset to not have been involved. Has anyone pulled off a secret elopement and still gone through with the wedding? And how did it go with the marriage certificate signing at the wedding without anyone finding out? Thanks!

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  • K
    Just Said Yes November 2019
    Kayla ·
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    My fiancé and I are thinking about the same thing. And as I read through these comments, I’m seeing a lot of negative replies on this topic. I’d like to remind everyone that every family is different. Mine and my fiancé’s families have some issues, including but not limited to a history of ruining special dates in our lives, being overbearing, making a scene, making it all about them, etc. When I think about my wedding, I’m stressed when I should be excited. We want a marriage, the wedding just comes with it because we both have large families. Finding a way to have a special time for just the two of us is becoming more and more important. Our reasoning is that if one or more of our family members does or says something stupid at the wedding or ceremony, we won’t be so upset that they “ruined it” because we’ll still have our special secret moment.
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