Second Wedding

1. My crowd isn't "party people" either but I chose to have a DJ just so everyone won't be bored or feel like the party is lame.

2. Totally up to you. Will it offend your dad if he doesn't walk you down the aisle? I think walking alone is acceptable.

3. I'm skipping garter and bouquet toss. Once again, how would your dad feel about the dance? I'm planning on having some outdoor games like giant jenga and corn hole.

1. I always think a DJ makes sense, just to have an emcee. It also depends on the vibe you want. Do you want dancing? Will there be a lot of partying? Is it in the morning or evening?

2. I think it's fine if your father walks you down the aisle twice, but I'd do what you and your father think is best.

3. Will skipping the garter toss or mother son dance be a bummer for your fiancé? You could always do the shoe game, or a joint parent dance instead?

1. Does a DJ make sense? I'd definitely love some music. It will be empty without it. However, those attending aren't exactly "party people."

I would def. Have a DJ present. To me it would be a little awkward with just hearing people talking.

2. My father walked me down the aisle the first time. I don't think it's appropriate for him to walk me down the second. I assume I would walk myself down. Does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions?

I've seen it both ways. Whatever you feel comfy with

3. As for your typical traditions, I'd like to skip on the garter toss, bouquet toss, and even the father-daughter dance because it seems odd a second time around. Any ideas on things we could do in place of this? The reception will probably be about 4 hours and it'd be nice to fill the time with something other than dinner and people speaking.

My opinion you shouldn't skip out on this just because this is your second marriage. It is your FH's first and maybe he would like to experience all of this? Have you got his opinion on what he thinks you should do? I think a father will always be happy to do a father daughter dance But, maybe you can do a dollar dance.

1. I don’t know
2. Your dad might actually love being able to walk u down ask him!
3. If you feel weird about the dance, have yours at the same exact time as the mother/son so it’s not all eyes on u and ur dad!

I am in the same boat with our marriage.
He wanted a big fancy wedding and I wanted to go to the park and go out for pizza. The fancy wedding won lol.
I am doing everything as a normal wedding as this is his first.
Except my dad passed and my son is walking me down the aisle.
skipping the tosses because ew lol. Look into the history of them.
Otherwise just because it’s your second doesn’t mean fh doesn’t deserve his special day. I gave my fh all the choices since it’s his first except the tosses, I think they are icky and awkward.

Joining in with a similar situation - my second wedding to a man who is having his first, and he wanted a celebration with our families instead of an elopement, so we have compromised on an intimate wedding with 40 guests.

1. Initially, we were going to just have a Spotify playlist, but then we decided to spring for a DJ. What changed our minds was having someone there to direct the guests (cocktails, dinner, toasts), and read the room and play music that works with the vibe. Most importantly, though, we decided we didn't want either of us (or one of our guests) to have to manage/worry about the music/volume all evening.

2. I'm having the same dilemma. I feel like I'm an adult woman who doesn't need to be "given away", and was potentially going to walk solo. However, I don't want to be insensitive to my father's pride, so I'll likely have a conversation with him. Ultimately, I suppose it's up to the bride, eh? What did you choose to do?

3. We're also thinking of having some oversized games to pass the time. I have seen suggestions to hire someone unique, like a palm reader or caricature artist, if that's up your alley.
For the father-daughter dance, I think I'm going to have the DJ play a song that is meaningful to my father and I to honor the moment, but if others join in to dance that's cool.

Good luck!